Post # 1
Going anonymous for this. Since my DH has my password to my normal account.
I just returned from my honeymoon, where we brought no technology (no computers, only cellphones). So I didn’t get to post this when it first happened.
DH and I had a small wedding (70 people) at a function hall. The wedding was wonderful. The food was delicious, the decor was amazing, everyone had a wonderful time. It was everything I’d hoped for.
However, one thing has me upset. That one thing: at least a dozen people showed up to my wedding, where most everyone was in cocktail attire, wearing jeans and t-shirts. And these were not young people. They were people my age (28) and older. Honestly, who wears old jeans and a t-shirt to a wedding? I would never. I have a hard time wearing jeans and a t-shirt out to dinner.
I can’t be crazy for being upset, can I? They were friends of my DH, and people he’s known for years. They should have known better. At least, I would think they would. I now will have wedding photos with people in jeans and t-shirts. I mean, really?
Am I being shallow? Am I crazy for thinking that this is completely inappropriate? It’s a wedding. You should think ahead.
Post # 3
That does seem a bit ridiculous to me – what’s shocking is how many people wore jeans! I’d just laugh it off at this point, though – I mean really, what else can ya do?
Post # 4
That does seem very inappropriate. Unless you are sure that the wedding is casual, I would think at least khakis and a polo shirt (business casual). Did someone lead these people astray, or do they have few social skills?
I do find that some people think jeans are appropriate if they expensive (for example at Saks you can probably spend $1k on jeans and a t shirt). But still!
Post # 5
Exactly my thoughts! My DH works in an office, he wears a suit every day. Some of these people were his coworkers. I don’t understand. I can understand maybe nice jeans and a button down shirt. But these were like, casual casual. It just doesn’t make sense to me.
Post # 6
Ha. The first time I got married, one of my ex-husbands friends showed up in sweat pants. Yep. Sweat pants. Ugh
Yes, a semi-casual wedding…but sweat pants??
Post # 7
I agree with you I think that is out of line. Even to a causal backyard bbq where you can were more laid back stuff, I think a collared shirt with a nice clean ironed pair of jeans and nice shoes is neccessary. I think it’s disrespectful on every level.
Post # 8
I know someone that will not go to a wedding unless he is allowed to wear jeans. He will wear a button down but he has to be able to wear jeans and boots. Sadly my venue won’t allow it and even if they would how can you allow one person and not others (which I wouldn’t want to do)? I will admit, I have worn jeans to an “after wedding rececption” at a hall and looking back I think maybe that wasn’t even the best idea.
Post # 9
We were surprised by this too! Definitely a different dynamic than I expected. My advice would be to let it go…my wedding was over two years ago and I haven’t thought about it in probably two years until I saw your post 🙂
Post # 10
What is wrong with people?!?! What about “wedding” screams “yes, jeans are appropriate!” At this point though, just laugh about it. In the grand scheme of life, if that is the worst thing that happened on your day, you probably had a pretty nice wedding.
Post # 11
yeah, some members of my extended family think that dress ware is a polo shirt and jeans. And I’m sure that they will show up to mine in their best polo and jeans. All you can do is roll your eyes and move on!
Post # 12
I went to a wedding a couple years ago and DH and I were the best dressed ones there. The reception was at a country club- DH had dress pants, long sleeved button down and a tie. I had a cute sundress with a cardigan. Other guests were in ripped khaki shorts, t-shirts, jeans and hootchie momma dresses. I was a bit shocked. But this couple each had a bottle of beer delivered to them on the dance floor during their first dance………..uuggghh!
Post # 13
That must have added some character to your wedding! lol
Well, Ive been to some weddings where the genteleman wear really nice slim fit jeans, belted, with a button down shirt tucked in, sometimes tie, loafters etc to make a very dressed up but somewhat casual feel. I have never seen old jeans and regular shirts though!
I’m sorry, and don’t worry your not wrong for thinking the way you do!
Post # 14
Unless it is specified on the invitation ” Barbeque casual”, jeans are out of place at a wedding.
Unfortunately by the time these morons show up,there is really nothing you can do about it.
It’s not worth stressing over after the fact though. Their wardrobe choice in your pics will reflect on them not you.
Post # 15
@anonybee1248: Ya, maybe it was a joke because he ALWAYS wears a suit at work?? Have you asked him?
Post # 16
I kinda think it’s funny–a friend of mine had a guest show up to her semi-formal wedding in JORTS!
Not worth being too bothered by, though. You had a great wedding and are embarking on a great marriage! Congrats!