Jeans at a wedding – no.

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 77
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

michaella93 :  I guess we grew up pretty similarly. I’m getting married cross culturally and all of what you said applies to my wedding, plus a heck of a lot of other things because weddings here are very different to UK weddings. But I’m choosing to live here, I’m choosing to marry into this culture, and so I have to accept a lot of things that wouldn’t be my choice.

I think you can write what you want on the invitations, you can pass the word, and you can hope that people won’t weat jeans. But you need to be realistic about how deep culture is and the fact that people might wear jeans anyway. Don’t let it spoil your wedding 

Post # 82
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39 posts
Newbee

Typically the people who wear jeans to a wedding, do not understand that a wedding is a formal event. Most of the weddings I have been too the only people who wear jeans are people who can’t be bothered to dress up, and as a guest, that really pisses me off. You wouldn’t wear jeans to a job interview, what makes a much more formal event any les valuable? 

Post # 83
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995 posts
Busy bee

I do not think this is cultural. It is just whatever the groom and bride want. Make it clear on the invitation it is formal. No “semi” formal because you know there will be that one guy that thinks it does mean jeans and button up.

Post # 84
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

michaella93 :  this may be an unpopular opinion on here, but my thoughts are that the wedding is in the UK, and as such, his friends and family should be respecting UK culture and traditions. Not doing so is rude, end of story. I don’t care what they wear to weddings back home, they are not back home, they are in another country and another culture and should respect that.

IMO your OH should make it known that in the UK, jeans are absolutely unacceptable at weddings, as are shorts/flip-flops/baseball caps etc, and that wearing those things will create a tremendously bad impression on your friends and family, and further, they will look out of place. You can pick up smart trousers and a smart shirt and tie for what, $60-70? It’s hardly breaking the bank. If they still dress like they’re going to the beach/the park/a casual BBQ then that’s on them, and you’ve at least given them fair warning.

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