Post # 286
made2comment : I think we’re talking about the same thread- has about 1000 posts and in it the wife, who is now separating from her husband, describes how horribly hurtful it felt to see him texting another woman right under her nose (he initially lied and said they were just friends). And the thing is- the OP in this thread KNOWS how this feels, she went through it herself last year, but she’s casually, blithely doing this to someone else’s wife without any qualms at all.
Post # 287
All of this boils down to one simple question.
OP, would you be 100% comfortable with your Darling Husband having a relationships with another woman (not Jenn) that is identical to the one you have with your gym buddy-friend?
If the answer is “yes”, then just enjoy the friendship. Is the answer is not “yes”, then well…maybe you should ask yourself why.
Post # 288
funnyfox : but the answer ISSSSSS YES because she doesn’t care about her husband’s affairs anymore because she’s getting attention from another married man! She doesn’t even ask him about Jen anymore. She’s turned a blind eye to everything her husband is doing just so she can’t be guilted into ending her own affair with Gym Guy!
This whole thing is just a clusterfuck and can’t be fixed. Out of the three whole people at fault in this situation, not a single one of them will own up to their transgressions.
Post # 289
Wow, I’ve been reading the other thread with over a 1,000 responses of the woman’s husband that reconnected with an ex and saw references to this thread…..just spent way more time than I should have getting caught up on Part 1 and Part 2. The person I feel the worse for is Gym Guy’s Wife…the one battling depression and health issues stuck at home. I know Jen had zero regard for YOU and your marriage but please don’t do the same for this lady…think of how you felt. This thread is insane.
Post # 290
RobbieAndJuliahaha : ok yes 🙁 That’s the one. I actually cried when I read her update after she disappeared from not posting for a while. Broke my heart. That stuff makes me physically ill for a few minutes. I’m a huge baby though.
Post # 291
surftown89 : I’ve been stuck reading every word of these 20 pages for the past two hours. I remembered post from last year and even checked in when OP came back at first but I somehow ignored the next 18 pages until now. I’m sickened by this.
A burger and ice cream?!? You’re dating this guy!
Post # 293
I keep waiting for a plot twist.
Post # 294
unicornwolf : Gym Buddy/ Back Burner Guy is actually Jen’s husband. He’s trying to get back at OP’s husband (let’s call him Professor Dipshit) for messing with his wife….so he puts the moves on Professor Dipshit’s wife (he has to invent a fake description of a wife OP can’t meet so she won’t suss out it’s her Arch-Rival Jen). Only problem is, Professor Dipshit is either oblivious or doesn’t give a rat’s ass what his wife does with who…..so this plot twist has a gaping hole. If anyone else has ideas for Gym Buddy/ Back Burner Guy’s next move, I’m fresh out of ideas….
As for the daughter, she gets fed up with all the so-called adults in her life, puts on her Red Riding Cape and gets a basket of goodies to take to Grandma’s house. She meets a Wolf along the way and he walks her the rest of the way to Grandma’s house and she shares her basket of goodies with Grandma and the Wolf and they all live happily ever after. Spoiler alert: The Wolf is a better parent to her than any of the idiots in the main story ever were.
Post # 295
RobbieAndJuliahaha : Thank you, that will do, haha.
Post # 296
I keep coming back here wanting a a different update lol
Post # 297
I’ll be eating humble pie for a long time, I know, but I’m here now admitting the error of my ways.
After a lot of self-reflection, I realized that I have developed feelings for “gym” buddy. We started being in contact and hanging out more regularly over the last month. Nothing physical happened, but I found myself thinking of him more than I should, and some of the thoughts were sexual. It couldn’t have come at a worse time as things for him were getting overwhelming at home and through committees and boards he serves on. Meanwhile, my guilt was building up, too. And I didn’t want to be part of why he felt so stressed—that just made me feel even worse. :-/
I asked to get together with him and told him my thoughts about everything, and I let him know that I thought the only way to get over these feelings that I shouldn’t be harboring for him was to distance myself. It has only been 10 days, and even though we weren’t a couple, I feel as if I’m going through a breakup. It’s hard since, aside from a therapist (and this group), I can’t tell anyone else about it. At the same time, I’m glad to be putting energy and effort back only toward my family. It’s just very slow-going, and I know it will get better with time, but I still feel in a bit of a fog or daze. I’m glad he was understanding, and we were able to part on really good terms. I miss him, but I’m also glad to not have to sneak around and maybe this will give him space he needs to heal himself.
Post # 298
I’m just here lurking with buffalo chicken dip and some tortilla chips. This oughta be good.
Post # 299
- Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE
Oh this is going to be good….
Post # 300
Now stay away and focus on your own problems.