"Jen" the Work Wife Update — one year later (brief update)

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
Post # 301
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

PHEW!!! Just as one fun thread closed another reopens… it’s like whack a mole. This update though… soooooo predictable it’s eye roll worthy. ๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„

Post # 302
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58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

… 

didnt almost every bee on this thread say this was going to happen? 

I hope you see the trend in the responses to all your updates. How many users have been honestly trying to help you, to see the situations from a different perspective and advice from people who have seen this situation play out before. 

 

Post # 304
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5923 posts
Bee Keeper

deannamarie :  I sincerely hope you’ve brought enough buffalo chicken dip and tortilla chips for everyone, because I’m home on a sick day today and I’ve exhausted all the decent scary movie options on Netflix, so this thread is truly all I’ve got going on this morning, lol sad as that may be ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 305
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5563 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

This isn’t even fun anymore ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

RobbieAndJuliahaha :  

I left an appointment yesterday and saw emergency vehicles flying by to a house a few buildings down. I thought it was a car accident and people were gawking. Turns out it was an effing shooting with three people shot that I missed by minutes. It happened minutes before I left my appt, two or three houses away from my appt. Then the gunman was on the loose for a few hours so I very VERY much appreciated the other thread! I would like another one but this one isn’t doing it for me!

Post # 306
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5923 posts
Bee Keeper

wifeconflicted :  When you say you feel guilty- does this include acknowledging your potential role in hurting an innocent woman the way Jen hurt you? I would feel much more sympathetic to you if you’ve gained some insight and remorse on this. I sincerely hope you didn’t play a part in the stuff Gym Buddy’s got going on at home. 

I’d like to give you the benefit of the doubt that your meeting with Gym Buddy truly was with the intention of distancing yourself from him because of your inappropriate feelings, but I can’t help wondering if this confession of yours was made hoping to suss out reciprocal feelings from him. Then, when he agreed it’s best if you stayed away from each other, you acted like this was your noble intention all along. Maybe this is unfair to you and you did have the best of intentions, but honestly I’m rather suspicious of your motives. 

It’s good that you’re going to focus on your family again. TBH I hope you concentrate on your daughter rather than your ridiculous husband, she’s the one who deserves your time and attention most of all. And I’m glad you’re going to therapy and hope you’re being totally open with your therapist. I can’t help thinking this whole Gym Buddy thing was a way to try and repair your battered ego/ self-esteem from dealing with your husband and Jen’s befuckkery, I’d feel sorrier for you if you hadn’t tried to seek attention at the expense of another man’s wife though. 

Post # 308
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5923 posts
Bee Keeper

Sansa85 :  That sounds so scary and awful, I’m sorry to hear that ๐Ÿ™  One of the things I didn’t understand from that pro-gun thread….when you allow pretty much anyone to have a gun, it includes all kinds of people who shouldn’t have them. 

And yes, the Revival of Jessiquh Part Deux was most entertaining, this thread has gotten rather sad and pathetic, but I can’t help wanting to see how things turn out. Maybe that other Bee with all her polls will come back….

Post # 309
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391 posts
Helper bee

wifeconflicted :  I think it’s time for you to be honest with yourself. You want to be in a real relationship, with someone who is 100% committed to you. Your husband was having his thing with Jen and you were okay with that because you had ‘gym guy’ but now you realize that without ‘gym guy’ you actually feel very lonely. 

It’s great that you distanced yourself from ‘gym guy’ and can reflect on your needs. It’s time to either have your husband be 100% with you or divorce him and find a new relationship. You deserve to be happy. 

Post # 310
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Sugar Beekeeper

I think you are feeling trapped by your husband, a man you are just so incredibly afraid to confront, because you say he’ll leave you, as well as warped by all of his inappropriate boundaries to the point that you yourself can no longer tell right from wrong. I’m glad you finally acknowledged what was happening with gym buddy and put a stop to it. 

You don’t say what gym buddy’s reaction was or if he was surprised by your revelation. My guess is it was quite obvious to both of you what was happening. 

As far as your husband, as I mentioned some time ago, it’s not as if you have no cards or power here. I hope your very next step will be to stand up to him once and for all. I’d have long ago given him a choice, marriage counseling or a divorce. Finding Jen at your home that day your husband stayed home should have been the final straw. 

Post # 311
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4802 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

After eating some of that humble pie you should have some reality tea and have a cold hard look at your home life. Agree with PP, it would be either marriage counseling or divorce for me at this point.

Post # 312
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

My humble apologies for ruining your fun by shutting down the previous thread๐Ÿ˜‚ bad things happen to good people sometimes. Totes not my fault. See where I’m going?

OP,

not touching this with a ten foot pole. Because of course. 

Post # 313
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

WHO COULD HAVE FORSEEN THIS

Post # 314
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5563 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

slomotion :  

Missed you around here, girlie!!

Post # 315
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Sansa85 :  Same!! I’ll be more active when i’m off maternity leave. 

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