"Jen" the Work Wife Update — one year later (brief update)

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
Post # 331
11960 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

wifeconflicted :  If you can’t recall what you wrote last year about your husband’s reaction to couple’s counseling, I strongly suggest you go back and read every word of your old thread. I think it’s a very good idea in any case. My guess is you’ve since forgotten some of the really outrageous things he said and did back then. 

Short version. He refused couple’s counseling for fear it would unfairly place all the blame on him. He was uncomfortable for the same reason when you told him you wanted to pursue individual counseling and had the nerve to ask you to first get checked out by a GP, as if this is all in your head or a manifestation of a physical or brain illness. Classic gaslighting. 

And unbelievably your original individual counselor was the same as Jen’s. Maybe it’s just me, but did that have anything to do with your discomfort or difficulty in opening up? Did you ever switch? 

Post # 332
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

wifeconflicted :  OP what uuup?!?!

Has this situation been put to rest??? How is everyone?

Please give us an update ^-^

Post # 334
2669 posts
Sugar bee

You’re feeling so down about it because it wasn’t “just a friend” as you kept trying to claim. I’m glad he walked away, because you certainly weren’t going to.

Post # 336
3407 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

You can say all you want that things are going well at home, but you’re lying to yourself. That’s why you feel so down. If you want to be happy, you need to dump your ridiculous cheating husband so that you can finally be available to pursue a relationship with someone who loves and respects you. Stop choosing to waste your life with a guy who forces you to compete for attention with his coworker.

As much as I’ve enjoyed the “work wife” saga, this is ridiculous. It should have ended years ago. You should have divorced him years ago. Forget about your gym friend. There are loads of available men who would make you feel this same way. Problem is you have to be proactive and get out of this Jen triangle first. 

Post # 337
6513 posts
Bee Keeper

Have you and your husband been to counseling since your last post? 

If the two of you put half the energy into your relationship that you put into other relationships you’d be doing just fine. 

Post # 338
6333 posts
Bee Keeper

mrsaime :  +1, for both their sakes (and their spouses) I’m glad that he finally got his shit together and realized that relationship wasn’t platonic. Good for him. 


Post # 339
634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2007 - City, State

This thread is like every show from the 90s: it just won’t die. 

Post # 340
3122 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019


Post # 341
112 posts
Blushing bee

I’m rooting for the gym dude now y’all, who’s with me? 🍿

Post # 342
10568 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

sf618b :  

Not even after our elite world class thread killers have gone at it with blowtorches.

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