- 7 years ago
I don’t know how many of you read these yesterday, but I have an update to my frustrating “my uncle is a jerk who can’t be reasoned with” and “my aunt wants to take me out to lunch” stories.
Here is some background information: Uncle P and Aunt L are my dad’s siblings. Aunt B is Uncle P’s wife, and Uncle J is Aunt L’s second and current husband. J is usually overbearing, opinionated, rude, and selfish, while L is usually sweet, calm, and caring. I don’t know why she is with him. J constantly goes back and forth between saying he doesn’t like FH and acting like they’re best friends, and takes everything FH says the wrong way. I live with J&L.
Today, Aunt B drove 2 1/2 hours each way to take me to lunch at a restaurant I loved when I was little. She said she wanted to get to know me better because I’ve always lived far away from her and Uncle P. We had a good time, and then she realized that Trudy’s Brides, where her daughter got her wedding dress, was in the same shopping center, so she asked me if I wanted to go walk over there. I said yes.
When we were almost there, she suddenly said that the real reason she’d taken me to lunch was that she was really worried about my and FH’s relationship. She said she was worried because last week, Aunt L was telling FH that our neighbor thinks I’m beautiful, and Aunt B thought she heard FH say, “Don’t talk to those people.” (He absolutely did not say anything even close to that–he said something like, “Of course people think you’re beautiful, you are.”) Aunt B then said that when our family was cooking together last week, she saw FH whispering things in my ear and she assumed they were negative things and that he was trying to separate me from people. (I think she was talking about when FH suggested that I go hang out with my dad, grandparents, cousin, and Uncle P in the living room.) Also, Uncle J has apparently been telling Aunt B a bunch of untrue or exaggerated stories about FH, and she is believing them. She ended our conversation by saying, “This is me trying to care about you. You can do with it what you want, but this is the last time I’m going to say anything.”
I think she may be trying to live vicariously through her nieces, but is freaked out because her older daughter eloped, and her younger daughter was previously engaged to a Mormon and is living with her now-boyfriend’s family, and my aunt is not happy about any of that.
I still really cannot figure out why Uncle J is so not fond of FH, except maybe that Uncle J is overweight, unhealthy, unattractive, uneducated, and mean, which is the opposite of FH. Plus, Uncle J is Mexican, and FH (who is also part Mexican) made some joke on Facebook about the Mexican Army that made Uncle J want to beat him up.
I am so ticked off right now. I am glad that Aunt B talked to me in person instead of gossiping like Uncle J has been doing with certain people, but that’s it. I feel like all this gossiping and coordinating to take my FH out of the picture will just continue until everyone gives up and doesn’t care anymore, or until someone in my family other than my parents actually decides to get to know my FH instead of forming ignorant ideas about him.
I also know that unless I leave him, I’m going to be seen as a stubborn, ignorant brat who doesn’t want to listen to reason.