(Closed) Jeweler snobby about moissanite :(

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I can’t speak for Jareds, but next time you go try on rings maybe tell them that you won’t be buying a center stone because you have an heirloom. That way they won’t freak out and waste your time. 

Post # 17
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Helper bee

FYI – hardness does not reflect how resistant a stone is to fracture, chipping, or breaking – that seems to be a common misconception.

Hardness is a measurement of how resistant a material is to indentation under a compressive force.  So for example, how easy or hard it is to scratch or dent the surface of a material.  Rather, it’s toughness that is used to rate a materials ability to absorb energy without fracturing (ie: how easy or hard it is to actually break something under a load/pressure).  This factor influences how well a gem will wear, and how much overall “abuse” it can handle, and is determined by it’s composition and structure (ie: crystal structure, inclusions, cleavage planes, etc).

So a given material can still be harder than another (difficult to scratch or indent on the surface), yet still be more prone to cracking or breaking if it’s not tough.  They are two separate properties  (think of glass and wood – glass is harder than wood, as wood will scratch easier.  But even though wood is softer, it’s tougher than glass, as it doesn’t break as easily due to it’s structure and composition).

White sapphire is tougher than diamond, and I’ve read various articles indicating it’s also tougher than moissanite (moissanites hardness makes it somewhat brittle). So when she said that white sapphires don’t “break” as easily during setting and wear, she was possibly correct.  However, the combined hardness and toughness of a properly cut moissanite still makes it a perfectly good option for everyday wear in jewelery.  She may not have been familiar with the properties of moissanite, or just wanted to make a sale with the product she sells (not unexpected with a chain jeweler).

Sorry for the rant; it’s a quirky pet peeve of mine when I see hardness misunderstood 😉

And absolutly try another jeweler who will work with you to get you want you want!

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

We initially did the chain stores in the mall, but didn’t find what we were looking for. I remember some very expensive rings that they said we should “Just try on!” (!) Next, we went to a local who said they would order a moissy for us to view, but never called back. Our visit to second local jeweler is where we lucked out. They had a moissy for us to view, put it right next to a diamond so we could decide, then made us a beautiful custom ring. Local ALL the way.

Post # 19
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Helper bee

Gemvara will set/reset your stone (for free) into one of their settings. They’ll even send you the box to ship it to them : this HTML class. Value is http://www.gemvara.c

Post # 20
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Helper bee

Sorry, haven’t figured out how to copy a link… you can go to gemvara.com and search “reset”

Post # 21
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Helper bee

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ksn1219:  I know this is off topic but where did you guys get your avatars from? I seem to see this types of avatars all over the board!

Post # 23
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Newbee

How RUDE! When I went to look at settings, I never told the jewlers what kind of stone I had, just the size of stone we were looking at. I loooooooooooooooooove my moissanite ring! I recently went to a jewelry store to look at something else, and was pleasantly surprised that my moissy was more sparkly than the diamonds (that cost $20K *faint*) Sorry you had a bad experience!

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Of course they were snobby about it, they are trying to seel you THEIR diamonds. 

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

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sequinhat:  Shit, I wish I could remember. Someone posted a board about it a long time ago. Search for it and see if anything comes up!! Sorry, I’m no help!

Post # 27
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Busy bee

I go to Barons and I’m not sure if they are a chain but I think they are. I love the people that work there and they are a really high end jewelry store. They love Moissanite at the one I go to in Dublin CA. They never tried to sell me a diamond which I liked they actually told me I don’t need a diamond that it’s not worth it and moissy is just as beautiful. So I really think it depends on who you go to. Jared I know has had a lot of issues with not so happy customers so im not to surprised about the reaction that you got from them.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee

Ugh, how gross and rude. If a jeweler can’t get your business without insulting your choice of stone, they’re not very good salespeople.

Post # 30
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Worker bee

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aerochickie:  I came here to say the same thing! Hardness is not the be all and end all of a stone’s suitability for daily wear. For example, emeralds are an 8 on the Moh’s scale but their structure leads them to be prone to fracture. Some of the risks of less suitable stones can be eliminated with a bezel. 

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