Post # 1
My Fiance bought my ring at a jeweler about 2 hours away from us and we are planning to go and look at wedding bands next month. I’m super indecisive and I know that it is going to take me more than just one “in and out” trip to choose my band. I know that there is a wedding band that matches my ring, but I’m not sure if I want something a little bit different (I’m difficult, I know). Anyway, because I know that I want to experiment with different styles, my Fiance accompanied me this weekend to more local jewelers just to look.
Our first stop of the day a jeweler scoffed at me and said “There is no way [I] am going to be able to get a band for *THAT* ring.” He went on to tell me how “stupid and not thought out” the design is. I have three small stones on the side of my ring (undercarriage), and he said that any wedding band that I get will get “completely destroyed” because of my side stones. He also said that because of “grinding”, I should avoid all wedding bands with stones because my side diamonds will destroy the prongs on the other band and all of my wedding band stones will pop out. My heart fell to my feet and my Fiance turned bright red out of embarassment. When we left he kept apologizing for “choosing a bad ring.” It was not fun at all.
Bees, is there any validity to what this guy has said? Has anyone with side stones had this problem? I’m now pretty afraid to continue looking for wedding bands since this was such a bad experience. Any suggestions?
I’ve attached a rendered picture of my ring, because I take terrible photos. For reference it is 14K white gold and my stones are diamonds. I appreciate any help or advice you can give me!
This topic was modified 4 years, 12 months ago by moviegoer23.
Post # 2
moviegoer23: I have no idea, but I’d go to a different jeweler and leave that one bad reviews. I’m sure something can be worked out – there’s no way you can’t ever wear a wedding band. Perhaps a spacer band would work well for you.
That jewelers a you-know-what.
Post # 3
Yes there is some validity to what he said, although he could have said it much nicer. Anytime you have things rubbing together constantly there is going to be wear and tear, especially with different hardnesses involved. I personally would probably go with the band that is meant to go with that particular design and maybe even have it soldered to prevent rubbing.
Post # 4
If you have a split shank ring with pave, I would just wear that as your e-ring/w-band.
Post # 5
moviegoer23: A lot of women on here have rings like that with stones in their band. The easy answer to this is to buy a plain metal band. You have enough bling on that ring that a plain metal band will compliment it.
Post # 6
moviegoer23: You should go to a small in town jewelry store and have them custom make you a wedding band. THats what me and my Darling Husband had to do. We had gone to Kays and Zales. Kays told us there wasn’t a band to wear with my ring which i wouldn’t take that as an answer and Zales took almost 2 months to order my rings (which we ended up caneling that order) but there is a wedding band out there for every engagement ring.
Post # 7
Mine is a Verragio with side stones and this was my exact fear that the side stones will grind against a band but I found a ring I like and the Jeweller said nothing about it rubbing. So I don’t know if she just didn’t say anything or I dont have anything to worry about??
Our rings are very similar split shank with the inner scrolls, This is the band I plan to pair it with below. I am using the rose gold sapphire band in the pic above as a spacer.
Post # 8
Ouch what a jerk, terrible customer service … do not do business with that store! Like the PP mentioned he is giving some valid facts but he’s being a little over the top. My engagement ring has an X prong setting which made wedding band shopping a little difficult. I wanted something a little different and unique but those type of bands just didn’t look right with my ring. We wound up going with the band designed to go with my ring and am so glad we did. It matches great and doesn’t turn upside down. Good luck!
Post # 9
moviegoer23: My engagement ring has dimonds on the sides. I knew this when I designed it, and did it purposefully. I knew I would need a “spacer” band, which I was okay with. I have since replaced my skinny 1mm spacer with a twist band, and love it!
Post # 10
Just have the bands soldiered together. Problem solved.
Post # 11
Yes, there is validity to what he said, but he was unnecessarily rude. As mentioned, soldering will prevent the issues. But rubbing metals and stones will cause a lot of damage. The metal will wear down, it will damage any prongs in it’s path, and stones will get abraded, chipped, and lost. I stopped wearing my original set after 3 years, but it was already to the point that would have *had to* solder it, or I would have started losing diamonds. And that was just a shank and a band, both with shared prongs.
Post # 12
What a dick! Your poor Fiance appologized for picking a bad ring?! That’s heartbreaking. I like what PPs have said, you could either get your ering and wedding band soldered together or wear a spacer and just have to replace it ever so often when it gets damaged.
Post # 13
Mine’s not as fancy as yours but i managed to find a band that works (but it was a total PITA). That jeweller was a jerk! I’m sure you can find something that works.
Post # 14
oliviakatherine: I would second that advice! My engagement ring is an antique, originally made in the 1920s. The first jeweler we went to about a wedding band made me feel as if I only had one option, and that option didn’t match the style of my ring at all. Needless to say, I left pretty discouraged and my fiance felt pretty bad. I then went to a smaller local jeweler who was amazing! She took pictures of my ring, and used whatever software they use to create an image of what my rings would look like together. Although our problems are obivously different, a jeweler who does more custom work would probably be able to help you explore your options.
Post # 15
uncalled for. rude comment. i get it all the time when people see my ring. oh he didnt think it over well.