(Closed) Jeweler Told Me I Can't Wear a Wedding Band… :(

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
5153 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

moviegoer23:  I have no idea, but I’d go to a different jeweler and leave that one bad reviews. I’m sure something can be worked out – there’s no way you can’t ever wear a wedding band. Perhaps a spacer band would work well for you. 

That jewelers a you-know-what. 

Post # 3
9674 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes there is some validity to what he said, although he could have said it much nicer. Anytime you have things rubbing together constantly there is going to be wear and tear, especially with different hardnesses involved. I personally would probably go with the band that is meant to go with that particular design and maybe even have it soldered to prevent rubbing.

Post # 4
1994 posts
Buzzing bee

If you have a split shank ring with pave, I would just wear that as your e-ring/w-band.

Post # 5
5221 posts
Bee Keeper

moviegoer23:  A lot of women on here have rings like that with stones in their band. The easy answer to this is to buy a plain metal band. You have enough bling on that ring that a plain metal band will compliment it. 

Post # 6
1396 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011


moviegoer23:  You should go to a small in town jewelry store and have them custom make you a wedding band. THats what me and my Darling Husband had to do. We had gone to Kays and Zales. Kays told us there wasn’t a band to wear with my ring which i wouldn’t take that as an answer and Zales took almost 2 months to order my rings (which we ended up caneling that order) but there is a wedding band out there for every engagement ring.

Post # 7
2573 posts
Sugar bee

Mine is a Verragio with side stones and this was my exact fear that the side stones will grind against a band but I found a ring I like and the Jeweller said nothing about it rubbing. So I don’t know if she just didn’t say anything or I dont have anything to worry about??

Our rings are very similar split shank with the inner scrolls, This is the band I plan to pair it with below. I am using the rose gold sapphire band in the pic above as a spacer.


Post # 8
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ouch what a jerk, terrible customer service … do not do business with that store!  Like the PP mentioned he is giving some valid facts but he’s being a little over the top.  My engagement ring has an X prong setting which made wedding band shopping a little difficult.  I wanted something a little different and unique but those type of bands just didn’t look right with my ring.  We wound up going with the band designed to go with my ring and am so glad we did.  It matches great and doesn’t turn upside down. Good luck!

Post # 9
807 posts
Busy bee

moviegoer23:  My engagement ring has dimonds on the sides. I knew this when I designed it, and did it purposefully. I knew I would need a “spacer” band, which I was okay with. I have since replaced my skinny 1mm spacer with a twist band, and love it!


Post # 10
1831 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Just have the bands soldiered together. Problem solved.

Post # 11
4257 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

Yes, there is validity to what he said, but he was unnecessarily rude.  As mentioned, soldering will prevent the issues.  But rubbing metals and stones will cause a lot of damage.  The metal will wear down, it will damage any prongs in it’s path, and stones will get abraded, chipped, and lost.  I stopped wearing my original set after 3 years, but it was already to the point that  would have *had to* solder it, or I would have started losing diamonds.  And that was just a shank and a band, both with shared prongs.  

Post # 12
1189 posts
Bumble bee

What a dick! Your poor Fiance appologized for picking a bad ring?! That’s heartbreaking. I like what PPs have said, you could either get your ering and wedding band soldered together or wear a spacer and just have to replace it ever so often when it gets damaged. 

Post # 13
11519 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Mine’s not as fancy as yours but i managed to find a band that works (but it was a total PITA).  That jeweller was a jerk!  I’m sure you can find something that works.




Post # 14
102 posts
Blushing bee

oliviakatherine:  I would second that advice!  My engagement ring is an antique, originally made in the 1920s.  The first jeweler we went to about a wedding band made me feel as if I only had one option, and that option didn’t match the style of my ring at all.  Needless to say, I left pretty discouraged and my fiance felt pretty bad.  I then went to a smaller local jeweler who was amazing!  She took pictures of my ring, and used whatever software they use to create an image of what my rings would look like together.  Although our problems are obivously different, a jeweler who does more custom work would probably be able to help you explore your options. 

Post # 15
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

uncalled for. rude comment. i get it all the time when people see my ring. oh he didnt think it over well. 

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