Post # 1
And now that it’s actually been made, it’s so tight to get on and off over my big knuckle that it literally hurts to put it on. So, of course I said I would like to get it enlarged half a size. But here’s the kicker – they tell me that they can’t go up only a half size as the metal cutter takes a lot more than half a size chunk out of the band when it’s cut, then they fill in the gap with more gold.
So now I have to go up a whole size and that means for the rest of my life I’m going to be wearing a ring that spins around my finger like a frisbee. I am so upset I can’t think straight. It’s a halo setting so it has some weight to the centre.
The jeweller absolutely refuses to consider remaking the ring because they say it’s the right size, and yes once it gets over my knuckle it is the right size at the base of my finger, but it genuinely hurts to put it on, and I told them multiple times during the intial fitting that as I work in the construction industry I can’t leave it on all the time and it will be on and off about ten times a week but they insisted the smaller size was going to be the right one. It actually takes skin off if I have to take it on and off twice in a row. That’s how tight it is over my knuckle.
I don’t know what to do. This is a beautiful ring, my dream ring, and my SO has slaved for months to pay it off and now I’m going to be upset everytime I have to straighten it up on my finger. I know I can put one of those rubber spacer things on, but it won’t be the same.
I am just KICKING myself for not sticking to my guns about the size originally but the jeweller was so persuasive, saying that the ring will slide over easier than the ring sizer one I was trying on as it was wider. I’m so hopping mad at him and at myself. He refuses to even discuss it and keeps saying it fits, you’ll just have to get used to it going over your knuckle. Yeah, like I’m going to develop a callus on my knuckle. And don’t knuckles get bigger as you get older?? If you know it’s going to hurt putting a ring on, I would only be human to think twice about putting it on each time, so I know it needs to be bigger. Just not an entire size bigger.
I don’t have any sort of grounds of recourse through small claims court or anything because technically the ring does fit the base of my finger. It’s just the on and off part that is such a problem.
I haven’t told SO as he goes in to pick up the ring in two weeks and he is so proud and excited. Any advice from other Bees who have had this situation? Thanks ladies. Just very upset and not thinking straight so I would appreciate some advice.
Post # 2
Maybe put a little lotion on when you put it on? Idk, I’d rather have it be tight to go on and then not spin at all. Also, I would talk to a different jeweler about resizing…sometimes they can just melt the metal, and stretch it a little thinner to make it bigger, rather than cut a chunk out? I had my platinum setting go from a 7 to a 7 3/8 that way
Post # 3
Never heard of not being able to go up 1/2 size – that sounds like total BS. Yes knuckles do grow your whole life (weird, right?) Also they will swell from forcing ring over them till u cannont put it on. Get opinion from another jeweler. What company is this? Did they have good reviews? Did u speak to a manager or higher up? Sounds very strange – they can size 1/4 – had it done to my e-ring /wrap combo while they were soldered together alraedy. Tell them if it is not done right u want $ back – refuse ring and their bad service and go elsewhere! And do not forget u may put a wedding band on as well – if it is that tight no way will 2 rings fit. Do u trust them if something goes wrong down the road – lost stone ect?
Post # 4
I agree with PP that it sounds like BS that they can’t do a half size. Go to a couple other local jewellers and see if they can do it and let your jeweler know that if the other store can do it so can they and that if they can’t, they should at least reimburse you for the size change fee. I doubt they will do this because it was ultimately your choice though. They didn’t force you to make it a half size too small but if you felt like trusting them as it’s their profession let them know.
Post # 5
2ndTimeLucky: Ask to speak to management or take it elsewhere – yes it is annoying as you’ll have to pay more but in the long run it’s worth it! I have a halo as well and they are definitely top heavy so you don’t want it spinning (you don’t want it too large either because when your hands are wet it will come off to easily).
Speak to another jeweller and ask them what the right fit would be, anyone half decent should be able to advise you correctly!
Post # 6
My jeweler convinced me to go down an entire size lower than I wanted because my halo will be so top heavy.
Sometimes it is somewhat difficult to take on and off, but it doesn’t spin much!
Try to remember that this is the hottest, swelling-est part of the year – I would try to give it until the cooler weather comes to decide for sure.
And yes, another jeweler will be able to stretch it out even 1/4 size.
Can you wear a stand in ring for work?
Post # 7
2ndTimeLucky: I’m so sorry you’re going through this! If I were you, I’d get a second opinion. I had to get my ring sized a quarter size down and that wasn’t a problem, from what I’ve read getting a ring resized a couple times an a size or less isn’t generally a problem.
Also you could look into sizing balls. At first when my ring was too big, I got them (seemed less drastic than getting resized), and for me they were way too big, but I’ve read good things, so for you they might work.
Post # 8
Sounds very strange to me that they wont go up a 1/2 size. Heck the jeweler took my e-ring from 4 to a 7. I think you really need to stress the fact it will be too tight and you don’t feel comfortable with such a tight ring. Plus if it’s a wee bit loose your wedding band will help take away some of the looseness.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
I smell BS and it reeks! I went up and down. 25 a few times and no issues.
Post # 10
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
Sounds like BS to me, what’s it made of? Can you take it to another jeweller? You can have other modifications made to rings, like sizing beads or slopes(?), so if it does have to be a size bigger you can then possibly stop it from spinning.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
2ndTimeLucky: sorry you are going through this! I’m not sure if this will work for you but I will recommend having them size it the full size bigger then have them add sizing beads. I had my ring made a whole size bigger because I will be stacking bands and did not want muffin top. I have a top heavy halo so they added sizing beads to keep it from flopping around. I cannot even tell they are there. Good luck to you!
Post # 12
I was able to bring mine up 1/4 of a size. BS! Go to another jeweler. It doesn’t cost that much. Make sure he knows you’re going somewhere else. I bet he’ll back-pedal.
Post # 13
I’ve had a jeweler tell me I couldn’t size 1/4 down, so I went to a new jeweler and they said that’s bull and sized it for me. I suggest taking it to a new jeweler. Or size it up and get a ring guard. The jeweler I use makes ring guards that match the ring and simply sit at the bottom of it and adjust when your finger swells. But check with another jeweler first, because that sounds ridiculous to me!
Post # 14
2ndTimeLucky: this happened to me and after two months of wearing my ring my knuckle was so swollen and calloused that I could no longer get my ring on. the jeweller had to resize my size 4 ring to a size 4.75 and then put what he called “slopes” inside the ring so it doesn’t spin around. It does move up and down on my finger now but doesn’t spin and i know it won’t fall off. I have to turn it sideways to get it on. It’s not as comfortable as it used to be since it moves a bit but I’m so happy that I can get it on and off very easily and my knuckle is no longer damaged. The swelling is even starting to come down a bit now that I have had the new size for about 3 weeks. I’m also hoping that the ring will feel a bit tighter once it’s on once I get my wedding band.
Post # 15
Considering how my jeweler did 1/4 sizes, that sounds a little bogus.