Jewellers trying to change my mind!

posted 3 months ago in Rings
Post # 2
2976 posts
Sugar bee

 I’m not sure where you live or what sort of jewellery establishments you are visiting.

High Street jewellers may well try to sell you what they have already got. They tend to have round diamonds that have high colour and clarity but poor cut. If I say that 95% of a diamond’s beauty is due to cut then you will realise there is an issue.

Cut is about precision and angles while shape is the overall shape. A beautiful pear shaped diamond is certainly not a waste of money. 

There is lots of diamond education on the Web – look at Whiteflash, Brian Gavin, Brilliant Earth, James Allan, Blue Nile, 77 diamonds, Samara James, Good Old Gold. They do accentuate their round stones but also sell other shapes.

If you are American and spending $15K on a ring then don’t guilt-trip yourself into buying a big but ugly stone from a jewellery store that only looks good under jewellery store lights. Buy a well-cut stonei and make a romantic trip of it. f I were you I’d fly to Washington DC and go and visit Mervis Diamond Importers. (You have to book an appointment beforehand.) Tell them your budget and ask them to show you a range of stones – different shapes and colours. Then choose the one you like the best. They also have settings to choose from.

If you like the idea of coloured diamonds then Diamonds By Lauren in New York is the way to go.

If you are really feeling guilty then consider a laboratory produced diamond (they are still diamonds) from Brilliant Earth. You will get a stone that is much cheaper than a mined diamond. Brilliant Earth also have some very nice settings.

If you are British then go to Hatton Garden in London or the Diamond Quarter in Birmingham. I bought my stone from Whiteflash and had it set by Mappin & Webb in their Diamond Quarter workshop. I’ve been impressed by Samara James rings on this site.

Post # 4
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

niki2015 :  Bee, you should get what you want and what you like. Seems like the jewelers you were going to were just trying to make money off of you and not really listening to what you want! There is nothing wrong with wanting a different shape other than a round. I would suggest looking online, or maybe traveling a bit to go to different jewlers? … I couldn’t find what I wanted in any jewelry stores so I ended up ordering online, there are websites where you can pick the exact stone and setting you want, that might be the best route for you! Blue Nile has where you can pick exactly the type of stone down to the 4 C’s and you pick your own setting. 

Post # 5
170 posts
Blushing bee

Maybe purchase a loose pear online and then shop for settings with a jeweler? That way you don’t give them the option to talk to you about other shapes and you know you have a good quality stone and not just the only pear they could find on short notice. 


I’m sorry people made you feel bad about your choice–pears are beautiful and definitely coming back in style, so idk what those jewelers were talking about or what side of the bed they woke up on. Update us and show us your ring once you choose it!!!

Post # 6
2130 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

You should absolutely get what you want and what you like. When I first started looking at rings, I was dead set on a sapphire. My mom and Mother-In-Law had some concerns and comments, but I just really wanted a sapphire. I love my ring and am completely obsessed with it! If you love it now, you will love it forever! If you don’t have many shops there, go look online. There are plenty of options. Just make sure you educate yourself about the 4C’s (sounds like you have) get videos and make sure you can return it if you aren’t happy with it. Don’t question what you want! Go find someone that will make it for you! 

Post # 8
170 posts
Blushing bee

niki2015 :   I bought online and it came with all of the certifications–a jewelry store will likely work with an independent broker, they won’t order from an online retailer and then sell to you. We originally purchased a diamond with a jeweler but ended up returning it because we could get a way higher quality diamond if we purchased online. Plus we got to inspect the 10x magnified video of the diamond so we did see it prior to purchase. 

Post # 9
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

niki2015 :  We bought my engagement ring online from Brilliant Earth and it is beautiful.  As long as the certifications are there, you will know about the quality of the diamond you are getting.

I am going to echo what others have said, you need to get exactly what you want.  It doesn’t matter what the jeweler thinks you should have.  You know your taste and what you are going to love wearing forever.  Have fun with the process, I am sure your ring will be amazing!

Post # 10
3096 posts
Sugar bee

Buy whatever makes you happy. 

Post # 11
1373 posts
Bumble bee

niki2015 :  We bought my diamond online and the purchasing process was easy. The stone is stunning. You can actually get a better view in the zoomed in pictures online than you ever could at a jeweler. Make sure you get it with a certificate, and then have a local jeweler set it. 

Post # 12
7020 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Go to pricescope, they will help you find an amazing diamond in your budget!

But I have to say – your parameters are quite strict. Even just bumping the clarity a bit will give you more options. In a VS1 or VS2 you can only see inclusions with 10x magnification. 

Post # 13
22 posts

niki2015 :  Maybe look online? Brilliant Earth would get you a gorgeous ring for $15 grand and they have all shapes. Personally I wound worry a little about getting “sick “of a fancy cut but then again I went with an oval and don’t think ill ever grow tired of it because its my preference. You might be the same with a pear or cushion….

Post # 15
56 posts
Worker bee

Maybe look at Lauren B Jewelry. They have some beautiful pear shaped diamonds in their stock, and I love drooling over their Instagram. I believe you work with a consultant because they don’t list prices on a lot of the rings on their site. 

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