Post # 1
Hi everyone! So We went ring shopping yesterday – first time trying on diamond rings. Im a 34 year old with a 1 year old and have been married for 4 years but have been dating since 2001! Although he always wanted to buy me a ring, I always thought that the money could go somewhere else. So now I am in a position to buy whatever I want! Im not that much into round solitaire diamonds, maybe because I never had a diamond ring so now I want something unusual? Maybe it is because that is what I always see on other women? I dont like the tower looking ring! But when I see it mounted lower it loses its shiny sparkly effect! Went to 3 different shops – 2 of them just wanted to sell a round solitaire which really put me off. They said Im wasting my money in buying a pear shaped or cushion (those were my preference). So it put me off and just left. They only had round and marquise in stock but they could order whatever I wanted. The 3rd shop was more understanding – this shop had a lot of round diamond solitaires and 1 pear shaped. Am i doing a mistake? Wasting 15k on a pear shaped?? Now I am back to square one not wanting a ring because I dont want to spend our money on something that I was brainwashed in buying. But on the other hand I dont want to buy something that I will regret! What are all your thoughts? Did you have the same experience in some shop? I do understand that they try to sell you what they have in stock, but it was like extreme brainwashing! My husband just stays quiet and says ‘whatever she wants, I will get’! So it is all up to me!
Post # 2
I’m not sure where you live or what sort of jewellery establishments you are visiting.
High Street jewellers may well try to sell you what they have already got. They tend to have round diamonds that have high colour and clarity but poor cut. If I say that 95% of a diamond’s beauty is due to cut then you will realise there is an issue.
Cut is about precision and angles while shape is the overall shape. A beautiful pear shaped diamond is certainly not a waste of money.
There is lots of diamond education on the Web – look at Whiteflash, Brian Gavin, Brilliant Earth, James Allan, Blue Nile, 77 diamonds, Samara James, Good Old Gold. They do accentuate their round stones but also sell other shapes.
If you are American and spending $15K on a ring then don’t guilt-trip yourself into buying a big but ugly stone from a jewellery store that only looks good under jewellery store lights. Buy a well-cut stonei and make a romantic trip of it. f I were you I’d fly to Washington DC and go and visit Mervis Diamond Importers. (You have to book an appointment beforehand.) Tell them your budget and ask them to show you a range of stones – different shapes and colours. Then choose the one you like the best. They also have settings to choose from.
If you like the idea of coloured diamonds then Diamonds By Lauren in New York is the way to go.
If you are really feeling guilty then consider a laboratory produced diamond (they are still diamonds) from Brilliant Earth. You will get a stone that is much cheaper than a mined diamond. Brilliant Earth also have some very nice settings.
If you are British then go to Hatton Garden in London or the Diamond Quarter in Birmingham. I bought my stone from Whiteflash and had it set by Mappin & Webb in their Diamond Quarter workshop. I’ve been impressed by Samara James rings on this site.
Post # 3
thanks for your reply! Im not feeling guilty because i am spending money on a ring! I need to splurge on something 🙂 we both work hard and we have the money for it so now i need to pamper myself! I just dont want to make the wrong decision. Unfortunately where I am from there arent that many jewellers to choose from and im not from the US. I am balancing the 4 Cs so im considering a vvs1, d-f, in pear or cushion with a max of 15k..but what im getting is ..’with that money you should get the best round diamond’. This 1 jeweller said ..with that budget your ring will not look like anyone else’s because where I am that budget is a year’s salry. But that is not the point, im just not that interested in round diamonds and i keep looking at pics of round diamond rings to try to chamge my mind. I will be very nasty in saying that they are not beautiful because they are but i think it is just not my style! But im not 100% sure. Feeling so frustrating because I dont know if im double thinking this because I have been brainwashed or not.
Post # 4
niki2015 : Bee, you should get what you want and what you like. Seems like the jewelers you were going to were just trying to make money off of you and not really listening to what you want! There is nothing wrong with wanting a different shape other than a round. I would suggest looking online, or maybe traveling a bit to go to different jewlers? … I couldn’t find what I wanted in any jewelry stores so I ended up ordering online, there are websites where you can pick the exact stone and setting you want, that might be the best route for you! Blue Nile has where you can pick exactly the type of stone down to the 4 C’s and you pick your own setting.
Post # 5
Maybe purchase a loose pear online and then shop for settings with a jeweler? That way you don’t give them the option to talk to you about other shapes and you know you have a good quality stone and not just the only pear they could find on short notice.
I’m sorry people made you feel bad about your choice–pears are beautiful and definitely coming back in style, so idk what those jewelers were talking about or what side of the bed they woke up on. Update us and show us your ring once you choose it!!!
Post # 6
You should absolutely get what you want and what you like. When I first started looking at rings, I was dead set on a sapphire. My mom and Mother-In-Law had some concerns and comments, but I just really wanted a sapphire. I love my ring and am completely obsessed with it! If you love it now, you will love it forever! If you don’t have many shops there, go look online. There are plenty of options. Just make sure you educate yourself about the 4C’s (sounds like you have) get videos and make sure you can return it if you aren’t happy with it. Don’t question what you want! Go find someone that will make it for you!
Post # 7
Sunshine024 : newbee5 : jaydeeplatinum : thanks for your replies. I also had a lecture from my mom who used to work in jewellery saying that that is their job to persuade you into buying what they have in stock and alot of times they actually succeed! In fact i was a little brainwashed. But I was actually strong enough to not give in.
Have you bought online? Spending thousands of Euros online and not actually seeing the diamond is freaking me out! I am travelling to Germany in December maybe I should wait?
I am thinking…from where do they get their diamonds? Can they actually get from example blue nile and sell as their own?? Are loose diamonds from blue nile sealed in a gia pack? Because that is what they showed me in round shaped (sealed in a gia pack)
Post # 8
niki2015 : I bought online and it came with all of the certifications–a jewelry store will likely work with an independent broker, they won’t order from an online retailer and then sell to you. We originally purchased a diamond with a jeweler but ended up returning it because we could get a way higher quality diamond if we purchased online. Plus we got to inspect the 10x magnified video of the diamond so we did see it prior to purchase.
Post # 9
niki2015 : We bought my engagement ring online from Brilliant Earth and it is beautiful. As long as the certifications are there, you will know about the quality of the diamond you are getting.
I am going to echo what others have said, you need to get exactly what you want. It doesn’t matter what the jeweler thinks you should have. You know your taste and what you are going to love wearing forever. Have fun with the process, I am sure your ring will be amazing!
Post # 10
Buy whatever makes you happy.
Post # 11
niki2015 : We bought my diamond online and the purchasing process was easy. The stone is stunning. You can actually get a better view in the zoomed in pictures online than you ever could at a jeweler. Make sure you get it with a certificate, and then have a local jeweler set it.
Post # 12
Go to pricescope, they will help you find an amazing diamond in your budget!
But I have to say – your parameters are quite strict. Even just bumping the clarity a bit will give you more options. In a VS1 or VS2 you can only see inclusions with 10x magnification.
Post # 13
niki2015 : Maybe look online? Brilliant Earth would get you a gorgeous ring for $15 grand and they have all shapes. Personally I wound worry a little about getting “sick “of a fancy cut but then again I went with an oval and don’t think ill ever grow tired of it because its my preference. You might be the same with a pear or cushion….
Post # 14
jellybellynelly : im open to vvs1 and vvs2 🙂 i just wrote that because i know what the best is… i have to see what is best price vs quality
Post # 15
Maybe look at Lauren B Jewelry. They have some beautiful pear shaped diamonds in their stock, and I love drooling over their Instagram. I believe you work with a consultant because they don’t list prices on a lot of the rings on their site.