Post # 1
When Mr CL and I were on honeymoon in Bruges, we went along to the diamond museum and got a free polished diamond. It’s only really tiny (between 0.005 and 0.01 of a carat, so seriously small!) but Mr CL said he liked the idea of having our jeweller (who made our wedding rings) use it in a bespoke piece of jewellery for our firstborn child.
Now, we’re not likely to have a baby for a few years for a combination of ‘it wouldn’t be sensible right now’ reasons, but I *love* that he had this idea! I think it would be really cute for our first child to have something with a little piece of our honeymoon wrapped up in it. We’re not planning to get anything made yet because frankly there’s other stuff we need to spend money on!
My question is, does anyone have any ideas for a piece of jewellery that would be pretty gender neutral. And I don’t just mean because we might have a boy, but we might also have a girl who’s something of a tomboy, or a child who’s transgender, and I’d want to have something made which would be a good keepsake (regardless of whether or not they wore it) for any child.
Post # 3
@clumsylawyer: Well i would say if your religious a cross with the diamond in the center would be nice. If you’re not however, i am not sure. As most men dont wear jewellery. If it was me i would save it for my first daughter and get her a heart locket & have the diamond added to that. Best of luck!
Post # 4
First off… I L♥VE this idea.
But the reality is such that kids aren’t good at taking care of jewellery… know this by a very sad experience when one of ours lost a something that had been handed down to them. (I let them wear it on their Birthday, at a B-Day Party at our house, and it got lost outside somewhere’s on our lawn, never to be seen again… still bothers me years & years later, as the person who gave it has long passed).
MY BEST ADVICE… put it aside, for a really long while.
Kids are waaay more appreciative, and in-tune with the value of things and their sentiment round about the time they turn 16.
I suggest that you have your first born made a signet ring at that time… and have the Jeweller set the diamond into it then.
Signet Rings are perfect gifts for Boys or Girls… and historically have a background as an item that often a first born would have (sometimes it would be designed to also be the family seal… that would be pressed into was on Letters & Documents)
Anyhow, nice old tradition in a modern way.
Here are a couple of pics of modern signet rings off of GOOGLE – Diamond Signet Ring –
Hope this helps,
Post # 5
Honestly I would not get any type of jewelry for a child. Children are not responisble and will lose said piece. I would maybe make something for that child’s 16th or older birthday than anything.
Post # 6
I’d hold on to the diamond until you have a child and know their personality, then have the piece of jewelry made.
Post # 7
@MrsHoneyC: No, we’re not religious but I can see how a cross could be perfect for someone who was!
@This Time Round: @Sassygrn: We’d already planned to ‘put it away’ until said hypothetical child is old enough to appreciate it. Probably until a ‘big’ birthday like their 16th or 18th. TTR, I love the idea of a signet ring! I’ll suggest it to Mr CL
@Jabberwocky: That’s probably what we’ll end up doing, unless our jeweller plans to move away or stop trading, in which case we’ll get in there really quickly as we were so pleased with our wedding rings and she’s such a lovely girl we wouldn’t want anyone else to do it.
Post # 8
I would save it, to see what they want to do with it.
I would have put it in a white gold band and worn it as my wedding band! Or as the center of a cross,
Post # 9
I love this idea! This Time Round‘s idea of a signet ring is great.
Post # 10
@clumsylawyer: my then-husband gifted both of our children 18kt yellow gold baby rings at their birth. My sons is a tiny signet ring with the last name itial, and my daughters is a tiny little diamond solitaire. I had them wear for important family photos and for 1st birthday photos, then I began to wear them as a necklace, which, I still do! Someday they will be returned to the children and they can pass them on to their kids or just keep them.
I also wore on my daughter, my mothers sterling baby cuff bracelet and also mine, until they didn’t fit anymore.
Post # 11
I would hold on to it until they’re older. I could see a girl putting it into a small ring, or a man putting it either in a piece for himself, or as a “surprise” diamond on the inside of an engagement ring.
Post # 12
I think it would be sweet to save it for your first daughter and have it put into a necklace for her to wear on her wedding day. Or, if you only have sons you could put the diamond into a necklace for your future daughter-in-law =)
Post # 13
Since it’s a small diamond, I would have it flush-set into a band-style ring. I think that style could be worn by anyone. I would have it made a size larger than your wedding ring size, then when you get pregnant and your fingers swell, you can wear it as your stand-in wedding ring. That way it will have extra meaning when you give it to your child, because you can say you wore it when you were pregnant with him/her!
Post # 14
@clumsylawyer: I have 3 children, and I would never pass on something to the firstborn only. I could never favour one child like that. If you’re going down that path I suggest (a) save it for when the child is older, and more importantly (b) acquire other things over the years so there is something to pass on to each child.