Post # 1
I’ve been wondering about this for a while. I see a lot of posts where brides say that paying for hair and make up or the dress isn’t really a gift because they are for the wedding. But they buy jewelry for their bm to wear, which is for the wedding. I know that I am really particular about my jewelry and only wear a few pieces, so I just wondered any one that has received jewelry for a bm gift, have you ever worn it again? I personally would rather have my dress or hair or make up paid for. In all honesty the jewelry will end up with the dress in the back of the closet never to see daylight again.
Why is dress, make up, hair not considered a gift but jewelry worn for the wedding is?
Post # 3
Dunno. But I’ve worn jewellery given to me when I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I suppose it depends on the jewellery and individual tastes etc.
Post # 4
I guess hair/makeup is a gift, but a short-sided one because it only lasts for one day. Jewelry is something tangible that they can keep, so it’s seen as more of a gift, regardless of how the receiving end likes it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2011 - Mackinaw Valley Vineyard; Bloomington Center for the Performing Arts
I wear stud pearl earrings I got as a Bridesmaid or Best Man gift almost everyday. I think I wear the pearls because I consider them ‘classic’, but stuff with rhinestones, or bigger pieces I probably wouldn’t because they don’t match my everyday look. I would much rather have my dress, hair, or makeup paid for. I think it’s just hard to buy gifts for multiple girls and jewelry for the wedding is a great option because you know it will go with at least one thing they own.
Post # 6
@M.Ruder: Yes agree, it’s something tangible.
Post # 7
@M.Ruder: That’s true but the pictures last forever and you can look back and say ‘damn I looked really good’ lol I would love to have my make up done so I can look good for at least one day 😛
Post # 8
I was given one piece of jewlery as a bridesmaid’s gift that I wore again. It was a really special piece that I love, and I was even tricked into picking it out (without my knowing)! But it was less a gift for being a bridesmaid, and more a gift for planning the wedding/reception and for doing all of the centerpieces, bouquets, boutonieers, etc. The rest of the BMs got something different and mine was given to me in private a few days after the wedding. The rest of the jewlery that I have been given has never been worn.
If you will pay for dress/hair as the gift I don’t see a problem with that but I think that I would mention it as being “part of their gift”. Then you could write them each a nice personal letter with an inexpensive DIY token of your affection (like a photo album of pics of the two of you or something). That way they are not empty handed at the rehersal dinner and the gift has a sentimental value.