(Closed) Jewelry dilemma

posted 6 years ago in Accessories
  • poll: Which option would you choose?
    Wear new earrings and grandmothers pearl necklace for wedding day. Wear gifted set for other events : (12 votes)
    67 %
    Not buy anything new. Just wear the set gifted by my FMIL for the wedding. : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Wear one set for the ceremony and switch for the reception : (3 votes)
    17 %
    Mix and match even though the pearl color is off (bright white earrings, antique ivory necklace) : (0 votes)
    Other (explain in comment below) : (2 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 4
    2869 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m a big fan of statement earrings so I definitely understand the dilemma.  Personally, I think you should be able to wear exactly what you want for your wedding, and that sounds like it’s your grandmother’s pearls and your choice of earrings. 

    I understand the concern about having to break this to your Future Mother-In-Law… I think it sounds like a great compromise to wear the ones they gave you for your rehearsal dinner or any related events.  That way she gets to see them, and you get what you want 🙂 

    Given that yours are already a family tradition, she should understand that kind of takes precedence over her new suggestion of a tradition… especially since you have mentioned that from the beginning so it shouldn’t come as a huge shock.

    Either way, good luck!

    Post # 5
    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Why don’t you wear FMIL’s set for the rehearsal, and your grandmother set with the statement earrings for the wedding?

    Post # 6
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d wear your grandma’s jewelry for the wedding and wear the set your Future Mother-In-Law got you for your shower and/or the rehearsal.

    Post # 7
    509 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    If I were you, I’d do what I had planned and wear the gifted set to the rehearsal dinner and other events. Then your Future Mother-In-Law sees that you like it enough to wear it and shouldn’t cause a fuss about the wedding day. If she does just tell her that you have traditions too and explain about your grandmothers set. 

    Post # 8
    9659 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I’d go with your original plan for the wedding jewelry and wear the set from your Future Mother-In-Law for the rehearsal 🙂

    Post # 9
    2111 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Could you wear one of the necklaces as a bracelet? If so, then you can compromise: wear the fabulous statement earrings you picked out; wear one necklace around your neck; wear the other necklace as a bracelet.

    If that’s not an option, I’d wear the heirloom necklace from your grandmother for the ceremony/reception. Maybe wear the set from your Future Mother-In-Law to the rehearsal dinner. 

    Post # 10
    11366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I totally agree with some of the pps who suggested that you wear your FMIL’s gift to the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner and to wear what you originally planned to wear for the wedding.

    This way, Future Mother-In-Law will see her gift debut at a major wedding-related event and, seeing it there, will understand why she is not seeing it the next day at the wedding.  Yes, I would definitely explain to her that you love it and want to wear it for the R/RD but that you have been waiting your entire life to wear Grandma’s pearls on your wedding day. The fact that you plan to pair them with some amazing statement earrings is not necessarily something you need to explain unless you want to do so.

    Post # 11
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Totally agree with everyone else that you should go with your plan and wear the FMIL’s gifts to the shower and/or rehearsal dinner.  It’s super duper nice of your Future Mother-In-Law to give you a great gift and to want to continue the tradition, but it’s also a bit presumptuous of her to dictate what jewelry you wear, no?

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