(Closed) Jewelry store security guard called me young lady, was he being disrespectful?

posted 4 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2021

Are you okay? I would let it go and find other things to worry about.

Post # 17
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

theweddingunplanner :  You asked if you were overreacting. All the Bees so far said you were. You respond saying you weren’t….why did you even ask in the first place then? I never understand these kinds of questions!

I get feeling a bit thrown by his use of the phrase AT FIRST. But it’s now several days later. Time to let it go. No need to email the guy’s boss about it. 

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

“considering the amount of money their stuff costs I expect an appropriate service…”

If I were the jeweler, I’d keep the security guard, and fire you as a client. 

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

Anyone else picturing the OP with this haircut

Image result for can i speak to a manager

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

Please don’t raise this with his boss, that’s madness. And yes, as everyone else has said, you’re overreacting.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

theweddingunplanner :  So if you were 38 and mistaken for 28 would that be ok? Or 78 and mistaken for 68? I would run with 18 and call it a day. I think your a very sensitive women that is trying to reach for something that isn’t there. And hell maybe he is 30 years older than you and he looks AMAZING for his age. You have no idea. Don’t assume anything. You do alot of thinking and alot of assuming. You might just be wrong in this case. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn

I get what you’re saying to an extent. I’m 39 and often get mistaken for as young as early 20s. Sometimes it’s annoying. I usually don’t think twice about it. People say stupid things. Just laugh it off and move on. 

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

Obviously we weren’t there, people can say seemingly innocent things in creepy ways, so maybe he was creepy about it?

But I didn’t sense inappropriateness in the way you described it, it actually sounded kind of sweet

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

theweddingunplanner :  so you think he was 18? Unlikely? That’s pretty young for a security guard? Also I dont no many 18 year old men’s who would use the phrase young lady. Are you sure you weren’t making a wrong assumption about his age?

And anyway, I don’t understand… Because he called you young lady you think he thinks that you’re 18? Would you have rather he called you old lady? Ma’am?

I just don’t understand what the problem is. Because he called you young lady it made you uncomfortable? Do you realize how ridiculous that sounds?

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Massive overreaction, massive drama queen.  

being mistaken for an 18 year old instead of a 28 year old woman isn’t exactly a compliment to be honest. 

I’m eye rolling so much.  “Oh my life is so hard, I’m just constantly being mistaken for being 10 years younger while trying to buy expensive jewelry.”  

 

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 1988

Seriously ?!? He was trying to be nice and offer a compliment! GTF over yourself and worry about things that TRULY matter!  Look past the end of your nose and be offended about climate change,  racism and poverty… NOT this! 

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

zzar45 :  Yes!!!! Thank you kiss

Post # 28
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Helper bee

This is a massive overreaction. If he’d called you sweet cheeks or something, I would totally get it, but all of this over young (you are, you’re 28) and lady (you are). I didn’t realize young lady is slanderous or impolite, and I’m the same age as you.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - Massachusetts

beeyouteefal :  lmao i couldn’t help myself and laugh at this. and yes, i do. with the same face on too. like seriously? op needs to get over it! i’m 33 and i would welcome that comment!

Post # 30
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Bumble Beekeeper

theweddingunplanner :  Honestly he probably started using “young lady” generally after some woman ripped him a new one for calling her “ma’am”. Give the guy a break he’s just trying to say something nicer than “hey you over there”. If you’re there SOOO often why don’t you introduce yourself so you can address each other by your names? I can’t imagine seeing someone that frequently and not bothering to learn their name. 

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