(Closed) Jewish Bias in Interfaith Resources

posted 8 years ago in Interfaith
Post # 3
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m not in this situation but poked around a bit when my Jewish bf married a Hindu guy, and I definitely think you’re right about that.  It seems to be true on this board too!  I wonder if that’s because of a Christian split – either you’re too far right to marry a Jewish person or you’re too far left to risk offending anyone. 

Also, there’s a perception that somehow Jewishness is more of a cultural thing than other religions are – tell that to an Indian, lots of whom are non-religious Hindus!  And aren’t Christians always complaining about secularization, Holiday!Christians, etc?  So how is there not a cultural/non-observant aspect to it?  Don’t know enough about other religions to speak to them so I won’t….

Post # 4
1154 posts
Bumble bee

To respond to the cultural aspect I do think Jewishness has more of a cultural aspect than other religions and that’s because Jewishness in many ways functions as an ethnicity.  In the USSR, as my grandad would say, they didn’t beat you up on your passport (or your synagoge attendance – which no one attended) but on your face!  So it didn’t matter what you believe, it matter what your blood was – that’s much more an ethnic thing than a religious one. You can’t tell who is Christian but you can tell who is Jewish just by looking at them.

Also, aside from Orthodox Jews the objections in the Jewish communities to Jews marrying gentiles is the ethnicity dilution not the religious aspects.  My family is not Jewish in a religious sense but are very pleased I’m marrying an atheist Jewish man.  I don’t think that would be true of most Christians.

Also I agree with hopewell that most Christians who really believe in Christianity are less likely to marry interfaith than Jews to whom Jewishness is important.

Also, Christianity is the mainstream religious so it’s easy for everyone to know the traditions of Christman or Sunday school etc.

Good luck with finding resources.  Maybe you could even write some if they are missing.

Post # 5
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Jewish organizations probably cater to people planning to live in a mostly Jewish household because it’s in their interest to do so! You’d have to find a Christian interfaith agency to find more information about raising your children Christian in an interfaith family. Why would a Jewish organization want to “give away” future adherents?

Post # 7
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I used to work in the Jewish outreach world (even though I am Catholic and my husband is Jewish).  There is a split among Judaism, but one reason that there are so many Jewish resources is because so many Jews intermarry.  Some movements have decided to actively court interfaith couples.

It is disappointing that other faiths haven’t put the effort into recruiting mixed families.  From my background, I know that the Catholic church wasn’t interested in supporting an interfaith family unless my husband converted, thus making us not interfaith.

Post # 8
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I have also run into this issue. Though my boyfriend and I do plan on having a mostly Jewish wedding, marriage, and family, it doesn’t change the fact that I am not Jewish! Most of the research I’ve done as well has led me to Jewish resources, and though those have been immensely helpful, I totally agree with the frustration.

GirlWithARing – I will keep you updated, if I find any good resources, I will definitely pass them along.

Post # 9
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve run into a similar situation as the OP, and am particularly disappointed with interfaithfamily.com (though in all fairness to the site, its tagline is “Encouraging Jewish choices” – it’s not really hiding the ball on that one). So, I wanted to refresh this thread to see if any of the prior posters found bias-free interfaith resources, or if any one else had some recommendations.

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