(Closed) Jewish bride introductions!

posted 10 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My Fiance and I are both pretty observant Jews. Instead of saying how Judaism will be a part of our wedding…all I can say is that we’re not just having a wedding, we’re having a Jewish wedding!  …if that makes any sense. πŸ™‚ 

We will be having a kabbalat panim and tisch, ketubah (of course), bedeken and crazy simcha dancing. πŸ˜€  I splurged on a band because I wanted the dancing to be amazing and just didn’t think that could be possible with a DJ.  I point out those specific parts because I know sometimes they aren’t done in some Jewish weddings… πŸ™‚

I first met my Fiance at shul so it’s very sweet, IMO, that we’re getting married there too… the people that introduced us are our best man and Maid/Matron of Honor. πŸ™‚ 

I work for two Jewish non-profits and know a lot of people that work for or have been involved with the USCJ, KOACH, current/recent attendees of the Conservative Yeshiva and Pardes, currently attending JTS and AJU/UJ, etc…. Jewish geography, anyone?

Post # 4
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105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

We’re a JDate success story!  We’re having a fairly traditional Jewish wedding on–get this–a Christmas Tree farm!  My Future Father-In-Law is a very prominent Jewish composer… I sang his songs at camp and in NFTY years ago, but he’s more well-known for his synagogue music.  Anyways, my absolute favorite part of our wedding is that he wrote an original ceremony to music for us.  His wedding pieces are already used throughout the world, but this is brand new, and after our wedding it will be published and distributed for others!  It is such an honor and I don’t know how I’m going to hold it together when the musicians start playing πŸ™‚

We’re flying in my childhood Rabbi from Omaha and cantor from Minnesota, and that means so much to me.  We also splurged to bring a Klezmer band down from Seattle (not much in that way around here).  It’s a destination wedding for almost all of our guests (we’re from Los Angeles, living in Oregon for grad school but will probably stay!), so we’re waiting to have the Auf Ruf until right before the rehearsal dinner on Saturday so we can welcome everyone then.

Mazel tov to everyone!!   

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Hi girls! I grew up Jewish (conservative) and my fiance is Catholic. For all intents and purposes, we’re having a Jewish wedding, though we’re changing a few parts to make it more applicable to us (we have a secular ketubah; instead of the traditional seven blessings, we’re asking 7 family members to write their own blessings in English around issues like social justice, friendship, family, etc.; we’re not doing an aufruf, veiling, circling). But we are doing the hora! That’s what makes it a wedding, right??

We’re being married by the only rabbi out of like, 15 who would even talk to us. =( We were really considering not having a Jewish wedding for a while because of this. But we persisted, and it’s a good thing because she’s absolutely wonderful and everyone (even his family) is now really excited about our wedding!

Post # 7
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105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Morah~ Small world!!  I’m up in PDX a lot, I’m actually getting my master’s at PSU through a distance learning program, and one of my BMs lives there.  We love it and are hoping to move up there in a couple years when we’re both done with school.  What camp did you go to? 

Rebecca~ i LOVE what you’re doing with the sheva brachot… so personal, meaningful, and creative!  I almost want to steal your idea, but I don’t think it would fly with Fiance or the fam….or the rabbi now that I think of it πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Squishy — it was actually our rabbi who came up with the idea! She said that it was really successful at another wedding that she did. So steal away! =) Maybe you could do it in addition to the traditional blessings?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Squishy, who is your rabbi?  I’m not Jewish but I took some classes and dabbled with the idea and got to know some people at one of the three main temples in Omaha (Temple Israel).

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

That’s my temple!  Aryeh is coming out to perform our ceremony.  I’m sure we know some of the same people!  How funny.

Amy 

Post # 11
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189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Hi all! Sorry – long post ahead.

I’m Reform (U.S.) and Mr.GV is atheist. He believes staunchly in the beauty and wonder of science, and although he doesn’t like this comparison because he thinks it oversimplifies things, I think a lot of his beliefs are sort of in line with Carl Sagan’s, even though Sagan was more agnostic. (ETA:) I’ve always thought that, but since we now live and are getting married in Ithaca, where Sagan lived and worked for the last 30 years of his life, and his widow, Ann Druyan, still lives – so readings from his work will feel particularly meaningful and appropriate. We’re having a rabbi perform the ceremony (David Regenspan, who wrote an interesting online article about interfaith marriage), which will be a somewhat traditional Reform ceremony. We’re going to add some readings and music that are more personal to us. Mr.GV knows that it was very important to my family and to me to have a Jewish wedding, so he’s been great about it – I think he was mostly afraid that when we met with rabbis they’d ask, "And Mr.GV, do YOU believe in G-d???" But fortunately that didn’t happen.  

My brother (who is 2 years older and my only sibling) is baal teshuva (although we didn’t grow up secular, so that term is slightly offensive to me) and is part of a semi-arranged marriage – they married last November. There was already some discussion of the halacha of their coming to the wedding since Mr.GV isn’t Jewish, and then – ta dah! – my sister-in-law got pregnant. It’s wonderful for them (and for all of us), but unfortunately she’s due the day after the wedding, so they won’t be traveling halfway across the country for it. Sort of made the halachic decision easier!

We haven’t really started planning the ceremony in earnest yet, but I’m so glad to have this board started.

Rebecca, I’m so glad you found a rabbi who would marry you guys and, more importantly, that you like her! I really love your sheva brachot idea, too, and might have to steal it… 

Post # 12
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105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

GorgesViola, I went to Cornell!  Where are you getting married in Ithaca? 

I love reading everyone’s stories πŸ™‚ 

Post # 13
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189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Squishy – That’s awesome! Mr.GV teaches at Cornell and I’m involved in the music scene at the school too. πŸ™‚ We’re getting married in Alpine, at the Fontainebleau Inn – it’s on teeny-tiny Cayuta Lake. One vendor you might know is Audrey Norberg, who owns Plenty of Posies… she has a stall to sell her fabulous farm-grown flowers at the Ithaca Farmers’ Market. I just saw her there this morning! πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

oops, sorry for the hijack, everyone…

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

OK this is really strange.

My Fiance grew up a member of Beth El in Omaha, his father grew up going to Temple Israel, we’re getting married in Lawrence, Kan., and (small world) the Topeka, Kan., rabbi is marrying us and we found out during our first meeting that she started her career at Temple Israel in Omaha (Debbie Stiel, Squishy?).

I’m a convert to Judaism, actually will be this coming Sunday. I live in Northwest Arkansas but we’re getting married in Lawrence because that is were we went to school (KU). We are having a Jewish ceremony, but we are not doing circling. We’re doing mostly everything else though. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Greetings I am conservative by choice and my Fiance grew up Orthodox, though is now conservative.  We are having a jewish wedding at Duke Chapel, which I think is breathtaking!  We will have a chuppah there though I am wrestling with the idea of how to make it really special.  We are flying our Rabbi in from Los Angeles because we think he is the greatest Rabbi on the planet and I believe our wedding will be palpably better because he is there.  I would like to suggest to anyone getting married or already married to read Ketubah by Pinhas Kehati, if you have not already read it, you will find it so fascinating!  It really shows how the Ketubah was a woman’s insurance policy and shows how avant garde jews were to think of everything!  My Fiance is giving me 300 zus (which is 100 more than is required because he wants to) We are planning a hora, a bedekken and much more.  We met by chance, introduced by a friend although he WAS on Jdate I never was.  I thought about having our flower girl and boy hold one end of a handkerchief as they walk down the aisle–any opinions?  

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