Post # 1
Hey Jewish board,
As conservative Jews, my fiancé and I are incorporating several ceremony traditions that I’ve never seen happen in person or simply don’t remember how they happen at a Jewish ceremony. Specifically, I’m wondering about the flower of the bride circling the groom, being wrapped in a tallis for a blessing, and when the first kiss is (before stepping on the glass or after?). Our Rabbi is wonderful, but a bit more, um, easy going than I am, as I like to know how things are going to happen. I thinking seeing examples of how these have worked in other ceremonies would help me wrap my mind around them, however my YouTube searches haven’t been very fruitful yet. Anyone know of good videos online anywhere of full Jewish ceremonies?
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
i don’t have a video from our wedding or know of any, but have you seen fiddler on the roof? the oldest daughter gets married and they show a lot of the traditions. plus it’s a good movie!
Post # 4
Here’s the video from fidler on the roof. Obviously it’s old fashioned, but it can give you an idea.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2018 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey
I don’t have a truncated video of our ceremony, but you could probably get the order from our programs: http://doublyhappytoo.blogspot.com/2009/05/our-chewish-programs-text.html
Also, Anita Diamant’s “The New Jewish Wedding” is an invaluable resource — it has a ton of info on the order and meaning of various rituals. I give a copy of it to every Jewish engaged couple!
As for the specific rituals you mention, the circling happens right as you reach the chuppah — you can do it the traditional way, with only the bride circling the groom, or the egalitarian way, with the groom circling the bride as well or both bride and groom circling each other. The wrapping with the tallis can happen right after the circling, though Anita Diamant has a few other suggestions. The kiss happens after the breaking of the glass.