(Closed) Jewish wedding fears

posted 8 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

do it!  it’ll be fun!!!  hehe  no but seriously, this should be fun and not something that causes you stress.  Who cares if you drop the napkin.  I’ve actually seen most couples drop it at some point.

Ask you venue to have two chairs with arms for the hora.  it’s better for them, (less chances of an accident and a law suit).  In fact many venues around here have special hora chairs that are larger with arms.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m not really looking forward to going up on the chair during the hora either – truthfully, I hated it at my Bat Mitzvah! Can you ask your venue if they have chairs with arms? Thats my solution – I figure the arms will give me something to grip and hold on to.

But I’ve seen it done many many times, and no one has ever been dropped or fallen off the chair!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I was totally excited to do the Hora at our wedding, though we didnt hold a napkin or anything.  I held on to my chair for dear life (no arms, I held on to the back of the chair).  The guys lifting us up didnt realize my dress weighed 20lbs so I had less guys than my Darling Husband did holding him up.  It was really really fun but I did get scared because I started to dip forward.  After a little bit I just told them to put me down but it was fun!  Oh and my Darling Husband is not Jewish and Id say 95% of the guys lifting us up had never done it before in their lives.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Hold on for dear life!!  That’s my advice, and for sure you won’t fall.  Also, it’s amazing how many guys will come hold the chairs, even guys who have never been to a Jewish wedding before will find themselves drawn to the crowd and helping to hold the chairs!  I’m super scared for my wedding too, and I remember being scared at my brother’s wedding which had what seemed like an hour-long hora that the siblings got put up in chairs too, but I held on for dear life and laughed the whole time!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You should do it!  My fiance is refusing to go up in the chair and do the hora, and I’m so sad 🙁  Like you, he is scared of being dropped, and I also think he’s worried that his family will think the hora is weird, since they’re not Jewish.  I’m still working on convincing him, but I think it might be a lost cause.  Our wedding isn’t a full-on Jewish wedding, so we don’t really need to do the hora… I just want to anyways.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

I enjoyed doing the Hora and even though the chair part was a big scary, it was also really fun!

It feels like you’re up high in the air but then I saw pictures and was like, huh, I was not very high up at all, haha…

I think you should do it! My advice would be to tell the groomsmen in advance and specifically tell them not to drop you 🙂 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I cant WAIT to do the hora!!! This is the thing I am most excited for abotu having some Jewish elements in our wedding!!!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had a little more than half our guests who were non-Jews; they participated where they wanted and things went well.  When it came time for the hora, most everyone danced or at least clapped.  Come chair lift time, it was pretty much our Jewish friends (not even family) who held up our chairs and they didn’t thrust us too high; we only stayed up there for about 1-2 minutes, got our kiss in and hopefully a lot of good photos, then they put us down.

You’ll be fine; if you are worried, ask specific folks to be sure that they are involved in lifting the chairs.  GL and have fun.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We so wanted to… until we saw the low ceilings in our venue! The walnut beams that run across the ceiling are beautiful, but we were just too worried about ending up with a concussion.  🙂

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow! Reading this I’m thinking maybe I should tell my non-Jewish relatives beforehand that this will happen and to be PREPARED to come and help pick us up in the chairs!  How many people usually hold each chair? I’m thinking 4- makes sense four posts to a chair….

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

OMG, I am terrified of this too! My cousin actually fell off at her wedding and it was horrible. Luckily, she was not hurt, just badly shaken up. I do not want that to happen to me. Also, I’m not a petite person, so I worry about people carrying me around!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

It was so much fun!  I highly recommend it.  I wasn’t raised Jewish and my mom had a blast up in the chair (although she would have had even more fun if they’d had arms).  My dad ran away and hid because he’s kind of a big guy.

As to how many people you want to help, I’d say 4-6 per person, minimum.  That can include you and the dads helping when you’re not up in the chair.   And yes, it might be helpful to give your goyim friends a heads up that they should come help!  Your DJ or band can also make the announcement. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

they dropped my husband and he survived! we still had an amazing time. and i wouldn’t worry about non jews not knowing what to do, it’s very easy to catch on.

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