JFF: Unpopular Opinions

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Post # 151
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Bumble bee

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@secondtimer18:  even in cold weather? no hot drinks? damn lol

Post # 152
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Newbee

I have been annoyed with all the social media postings of people getting their vaccine shots. Yes, I am glad you got it, but it just seems self-aggrandizing and kinda braggy, especially when so many people are still not eligible and/or having trouble getting one. And I have gotten my 1st, so it’s not vaccine jealousy. In general, I’m not a big social media person, so that’s probably part of it. 

Post # 153
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Helper bee

I haven’t read all the replies, but…I will only tip if the service is good.  I will usually talk to the manager first if something is unsatisfactory (not just stiff the service person), but I refuse to leave a tip merely as a wage subsidy.  If the manager refuses to make good on the problem (or is simply unable to), I will explain that I’m not leaving a tip because of the shoddy service and I won’t be patronizing the establishment again.  I am fully aware that there is a tipped minimum wage in many states, but the employer must make up the difference if their tips don’t add up to minimum wage.  If the employer won’t do so, that’s something the employee needs to take up with them, it isn’t up to the customer to pay part of their wages.

I also don’t tip lavishly.  In a restaurant, I give 20% for absolutely exceptional service, service that is above and beyond anyone’s reasonable expectations.  I give 15% for good service (meeting expectations).  I don’t tip below 15%.  If the service isn’t good enough for 15%, either the manager makes it worth giving 15% or I give nothing.

American tip culture is out of control, and not just in restaurants.  Bellhops don’t deserve tips, what they are doing is DOING THEIR JOB.  Same for parking valets.  The list goes on.  If someone gives me GREAT service throughout the year, I do give them what I like to call an end of year bonus.  But I don’t give money to people doing just an average job.  That’s what the price of the service is supposed to cover.  Other countries don’t have this kind of tipping.

Post # 154
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Helper bee

ETA: For any service worker bees, I am not criticizing you, I’m criticizing the tipping system.  What you deserve is a full living wage, just as is paid in Europe.  You deserve a tip if you go out of your way for your customers, as an added bonus to recognize your above average efforts.  It’s up to your employer to pay you a living wage.

Post # 155
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Blushing bee

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@futuremrsebc:  yeah, I’m with you… That has been so weird. It just feels wildly inappropriate after all we’ve collectively been through. 
I grit my teeth and scroll on by when I see one of those fauciouchie posts 😂

Also – wow , I’m on a roll on this thread – I HATE “I said Yes to the dress!”

my God. When will that die. No one is marrying a dress. No one. Or if they are, they’ve got a rough lesson up ahead 

Post # 156
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2021 - Glacier National Park-Montana

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@stateofbeeing:  I was a waitress and always tip my servers well if they deserve it.  But this tipping for COUNTER SERVICE is just maddening.   Every subway, cherry berry (it’s self serve?) and coffe place has a tip jar now or a horrible tip screen you have to bypass while the person stares at you.  You handed me a bagel!  I pick up pizza to avoid the deliver charge and tipping and now there’s a tip jar there.  It’s just getting way out of hand. 

I love sweet potatoes, not crazy about syrup but DORITOS are the center of my universe :-). 

I also want to carry around $1 headphones to throw At the people who listen to music or watch videos on their phones with the volume on in public places!  Not kids, grown adults!  In a restaurant,  in a waiting room, next to me while I’m getting a pedicure.  It’s maddening.  But so far I haven’t lost it on anyone.  There are just my rage fantasy. 

Post # 157
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Two ~sPiCy ones~

-If you identify as pro-choice, that means you should be a true supporter of bodily autonomy (I’m talking previously discussed things like circumcision and infant ear piercing, abortion, CFBC/elective sterilization, declining medical treatment as an adult, and all birth options from unassisted birth through elective c-sections). Unless it’s a time-sensitive legitimately important medical decision prior to age 18 (such as vaccination or disease/illness treatment), people own their bodies and should be able to make their own choices about their bodies. 

-ABA (the most common “therapy” for autistic people) is abusive. The burden shouldn’t have to be on autistic people to act “normal”, it should be on neurotypical people to get over their own hang ups about “autistic behavior” like avoiding eye contact and stimming. 

Now for some more mundane ones…

-“Pancake syrup” is much better than maple syrup

-Boxed mac and cheese is the best mac and cheese, and far superior to homemade

-Cats and dogs are both the literal best and nobody should have to choose between them

-It doesn’t make you a bad person if you like your pets more than most humans and would save them from a fire over a stranger

-Being a bridesmaid sucks. You spend a ton of money and usually the bride and groom don’t even let you sit with your spouse at the wedding. It’s 1 billion times more fun to just be a guest!

Post # 158
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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@happyjuju:  haha, yes even then. Although I am pretty warm blooded and tend not to feel the cold (I even enjoy it). I just drink water, squash and fruit juice. Occasionally soda. 

Post # 159
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Whiteclaws (and anything similar) is absolutely 1000% disgusting. 

Post # 160
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Newbee

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@mrswaynnneee: love the comment about cashiers. I used to work in this really cheap grocery store and if customers were rude I would bang their cans really obnoxiously onto the till. Once this old lady said something racist and my boss threw her out of the store. It was a GREAT place.

Post # 161
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Newbee

Ketchup is revolting and ruins anything that it touches

Not being invited to a wedding is no big deal- it’s really  one more summer weekend I don’t have to sacrifice to celebrate someone else’s relationship.

Directly asking for cash / honey funds is totally okay. I have zero interest in buying you a kitchenaid mixer – please accept my cash.

I don’t get Billie Eilish – I’m tone deaf though so this is likely my fault. 

 

Post # 162
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Helper bee

I’ve got another one, based on some responses I have seen here.

I LOVE all of the parties surrounding babies and weddings. Gender reveals, baby showers, sip and sees, engagement parties, bridal showers, bachelor / bachelorette parties, weddings. Give me alllll the parties!! 

I don’t get people that say “oh gosh, another celebration for this same person!” or roll their eyes, making comments on how you don’t want to go show support yet again. I remember seeing a thread on Facebook about gender reveals and someone said “I have better things to do than celebrate your baby at 3 separate parties!” What a party pooper, I wouldn’t want that person in my life or at my party!

To me, I will take ANY excuse, ANY day, ANY time, to spend quality time with my loved ones. I’ve always been that way, but it is even more prominent now after COVID isolation. I would never understand in a million years how someone can get an invitation to a gender reveal or baby shower and think how miserable they will be or how they can’t support two parties for one purpose. I love my family & friends, and will always always always want to see them and spend time with them and celebrate them. 

Same goes to multi-day bachelorette and bachelor parties. We did a 4 day weekend in Vegas, but my group of girl friends always did a girls-only trip to Vegas every year so it was no different. Why WOULDN’T anyone want an awesome trip with their best girlfriends?? Again, give me all the parties, and all the vacations, and all the time to see my VIP’s. 

If you have better things to do than eat pizza and drink beer with your closest people in your life, then they’re not the closest people in your life and you’re a horrible friend.

Post # 163
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Busy bee

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@aeroforceone:  If you and your friends have tbose kind of trips regularly than a lavish bachelorette is fine. If you don’t, I find the idea of expecting your friends to shell out thpysands of dollars to take you on vacation really ridiculous. If it’s their idea and they’re down that’s differently, obv, but the bride havibg an expectation of it is ridiculous. 

Post # 164
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Helper bee

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@unicornwolf:  True, I totally understand that! I also didn’t mean spending thousands of dollars. We did 4 days in Vegas for about $400 per person. I also paid my own way and would never expect anyone to pay for me, even if I was the bride. In fact I think I partially paid for my Maid of Honor too. 

I do understand personal budgets are all different though, so I meant no disrespect to that. Mainly venting about the people that complain there are too many celebrations… like I love my friends and actually WANT to see them and celebrate anything and everything with them, that’s why they’re my friends. 

Post # 165
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Newbee

Bahaha, just saw this on the Everything Free FB page for my town🤣

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