JFF: Unpopular Opinions

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Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2022 - Newton Square, PA

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@LilliV: Mommy wine culture is just Alcoholism Lite™ lol

Post # 18
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Helper bee

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@DogsAndWine:  yes to Beyoncé being overrated! Same with the entire Kardashian / Jenner / West family. 

Weddings – Not a fan of huge bridal parties with 9-10 people per side. 

Babies – Breast is not best! And I think it’s actually incredibly damaging to say things like that. Or that ‘our bodies are made for this’ (pregnancy, birthing and breastfeeding) because they’re not always. I’m a big proponent of car seat safety, rear facing as long as possible, and safe infant sleep. I can’t stand those dock a tot things, crib bumpers, bed sharers. 

I trust science and evidence. And pickles are nasty. And the LAPD was involved in Biggies murder (go see City of Lies with Johnny Depp on demand Friday!) 

 

Post # 19
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Wannabee

 I really don’t get Beyonce or gender reveal parties. Sweet potatoes, particularly baked until they start to carmelize, are delicious. 

Post # 20
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Science matters. Your opinion or strongly held (often irrational) belief does not trump science, facts, and evidence. This applies to climate, vaccinations, infectious disease protocols, science classrooms, evolution, etc.

Real life matters more than social media. No matter how happy you make your life look online, it doesn’t make it so. Being present, spending time with people who matter, and having experiences in real time are the things that build a fulfilling life, not pictures, sound bites and memes.

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@anotherb33:  I’ve seen those shirts and cups too and I think it’s gross. Your kids will eventually be able to read if they can’t already! Our daughter knows there are “grown up drinks” that she can’t have until she’s older and she also knows that sometimes mommy and/or daddy need some alone time but we NEVER conflate consumables with feelings. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 1996

I love this question and I love the responses so far!

I’ll probably get tarred and feathered for this…I dislike it when a parent is constantly saying to his/her child:  “Good job” every time the child does practically anything at all.  Yes, it’s important to make sure a child develops self-esteem…but a healthy, rather than over-inflated, amount of self-esteem.  In the same vein, saying “thank you” to a child practically any time the child does anything that’s asked of him/her.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

See, I feel like so many people (especially here) think gender/sex reveal parties are ridiculous. My unpopular opinion is that I LOVE them! I think they’re so exciting and fun! I also love any kind of shower or wedding. I guess I just like any reason to celebrate!

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2021

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@msuttman8:  I think it’s always important to say “thank you” to children! I would always thank an adult if I asked her to do something for me and she did. For example, if I asked my friend to pass me my book that was sitting on the table, and she did, I would certainly say “thank you,” even though it was a small thing, becuase I think it’s important to express graditude to those around us. Children are no exception! I think it’s important to teach children to give and receive gratitude freely. 

As for saying “good job,” I agree! I think it’s important to generally reserve saying “good job” for if job was actually done well. If the job wasn’t done well, we can still validate and affirm the child’s efforts by saying other things, like, “I love how much effort you put into that,” or “you tried really hard and I think that’s important.” That way, children learn that the product isn’t the only thing that’s important, trying hard and getting better over time is important, too!

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@msuttman8:  I agree with you on the “good job” but it’s important to say thank you to everyone, children included! If you ask someone to do a task for you it’s important to show appreciation. If I ask my daughter to run upstairs and get me a new bib for the baby I thank her for that. I do draw the line at thanking her for doing things that she needs to do that aren’t favors for me – for example she’s potty trained but still whines for wiping help sometimes. I’ve recently been telling her no and that she needs to be in charge of her own toileting. I don’t thank her or tell her good job for wiping her own butt because that’s just a baseline expectation. 

Post # 26
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Busy bee

Men shouldn’t get a say in womens reproductive rights and healthcare.

People without children over age 2 should keep their mouths shut about others’ parenting.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee

My unpopular opinion is I don’t really like tv. 

Im the kind of person who will watch the same 25 movies over and over and hardly ever watch a new show. I would say basically since I graduated college I had to prioritize what was important to me and tv never was. I have some coworkers who watch like 5-15 new tv shows and I don’t know how they keep up! 

I haven’t regularly watched a tv show since Game of Thrones. But I read about a book a week. I just think reading is better 🙂 

Post # 28
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Busy bee

Unpopular WB opinion: In most cases you absolutely should move in with your SO before getting engaged. 

I’ve lost track of the amount of posts I’ve seen of recent brides lamenting their marriages because they didn’t live with their spouse at all before walking down the aisle; then lo and behold it turns out they are incompatible/husband is unhygienic/chores are not divided/finances are a nightmare.

We are not in the 1950s so why is this still happening?!

I know some people will refuse to live together for religious reasons in which case fine, you do you, but religion won’t save your marriage if it turns out you are totally incompatible or your darling husband doesn’t brush his teeth. Living together before marriage (with no sex, if that’s what you want) is probably still preferable from a religious perspective than divorce.

If marriage is non-negotiable for you then I don’t recommend buying property before getting engaged, but please for the love of God test the strength/compatibility of your relationship properly by living together before such a serious commitment. 

I say this is an unpopular WB opinion because I see it all the time on here, but it is totally unheard of in my social circle/the UK. It is very common for couples to live together (even buying property together) before engagement. Yes it sucks if it doesn’t work out but selling a property is still easier than divorce and selling a property. 

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’m a non-parent with a lot of opinions about parenting, all of which revolve around personhood and consent.

It’s my unpopular opinion that little boys should not have their genitals mutilated by circumcision. If they feel they look different than other boys and want it done when they can make the choice to do it, fine, but don’t remove entire parts of their pleasure center/clusters of nerve endings without them having a say. 

On a slightly less heavy note, it is my potentially unpopular opinion that you should never pierce a baby girl’s (or boy’s, though that’s not common) ears. Those decisions should be made knowingly and when the person is old enough to choose whether they want to have pierced ears. 

It’s my very unpopular opinion that pictures of children should not be posted on social media until they are old enough to knowingly consent or to post photos on their own accounts. This especially relates to photos of personal moments like potty training, etc. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1999 - Tacoma, WA

I hate Target. I don’t drink wine. Christmas is over-rated. Las Vegas is gross. Leggings are not pants.

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