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Post # 316
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Sugar bee

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@minnewanka:  Yes! Narcissism is a clinically defined personality type/mental disorder. Some people are definitely narcissists. A lot of people being described as narcissists are just garden variety assholes. 

Post # 317
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 1996

Oooh, xiphosura, I finally found someone on the planet who also hates the movie “Groundhog Day”.

Post # 318
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Bumble bee

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@minnewanka:  Wow, that seems oddly….narcissistic, lol. Diagnosing everyone who has “wronged” you with a personality disorder is SUPER self-centered. 

Post # 320
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

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@stateofbeeing:  Hello there,

Thanks for letting me know about the situation in the USA. Most people also have 2 weeks off in Turkey unfortunately. But sick days are not included if the doctor prescribes a rest. However, I work for the government and all the civil servants get 20 to 30 days off depending on their ages (mine is 20). I guess we get 15 sick days and 10 days for any other urgent business. So, I’m not sure if it’s a lot, but it feels too little compared to Europe. There, I used to have both the holidays and the funds to go to places. haha. 

Post # 321
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Arghh the narcissist thing drives me absolutely nuts. My sister has a diagnosis of NPD and I can 100% say that the behaviour she displays is nothing compared to most of the pists on here declaring that their Mother-In-Law is a narcissist. No your Mother-In-Law just doesn’t like you or is an arsehole. 

It reminds of a few years ago every other post on here described their ex as a sociopath. Manly because it was the hip new word cosmo had printed an article about.

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Post # 323
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Bumble bee

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@j_jaye:  
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@anotherb33:  

I am a divorce lawyer and apparently 80% of my clients were married to narcissists haha. It drives me nuts.

I also re-direct them to say “from my perspective”.

Post # 324
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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@unicornwolf:  Maybe it’s because I am an introvert, but I wasn’t painting the town red before I had kids. In fact, there was a whole lot of boredom & empty time. I find this is true now that my kids are out of the house. Way too much Netflix. Sure, we can technically do whatever we want to (up to a point. We’re not independently wealthy & so have jobs) but going out to eat isn’t the end all be all. Vacations take money & time off work. Sure, we’re not traveling as a family of 7 much anymore, so it’s cheaper. But, I don’t think most families have 5 kids, anyway. And, traveling with friends can be difficult as you’ve got to take another couple into consideration. I think I would have been incredibly bored if I hadn’t had kids. Sleeping in & responsibility-free spontaneity is highly over rated in my opinion. I honestly don’t get the huge appeal. 

Post # 325
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Bumble bee

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@j_jaye:  Reminds me of all the people who were obsessed with diagnosing Trump with dementia or syphillis or Parkinson’s (having had relatives who died from this disease, that one really pissed me off—PARKINSON’S DOESN’T MAKE YOU A VINDICTIVE MORON! THAT’S NOT ONE OF THE SYMPTOMS!) to try to explain away his reckless idiocy. Who fucking cares whether he’s got a diagnosable disorder? He isn’t fit to lead the country because he’s a racist, misogynist, opportunistic, self-centered, money hungry, treasonous rapist, not because there’s something physically wrong with his brain. He exists and he sucks, that’s good enough for me! 

Post # 326
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Bumble bee

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@beewith3:  With you on using kids as an excuse.  I have a friend who is ALWAYS late for things – like 30-45 minutes late, and it’s ALWAYS the kids who are an excuse.  Problem is, when her parents took all the kids away with them, she still turned up late…

Plus, if you dropped your kids off at school at 8.30 and we are meeting for coffee at 11, and our meetup location is 15 minutes away from both your home and the kids’ school, I don’t see how ‘being a parent’ is a valid excuse for turning up at 11.45!  

Post # 327
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Sugar Beekeeper

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@secondtimer18:  

Well yes, obviously there are specific reasons on occasion. Whet l am objecting to is the practice as commonplace . 

Post # 328
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Thought of another. 

Baby cake smash photos are gross and repulsive, not cute. 

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