(Closed) Jill Off!

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Do you use any of the following to aid masturbation (ON YOUR OWN, NOT WITH YOUR PARTNER)
    Black Lace books/ Short stories : (29 votes)
    19 %
    Porn Magazines/Images : (19 votes)
    13 %
    Porn films/ internet : (57 votes)
    38 %
    other, please see below : (8 votes)
    5 %
    None of the Above : (38 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 4
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    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Fiance doesn’t care if I watch or read black lace or anything. Sometimes we watch together if we both feel like it and I know he watches on his own. Mostly it doesn’t matter to us to be honest because we both love each other and we already know each other’s boundaries fairly well.

    [Edit] I love the name of this topic…I had no idea what it was when I opened it up! Haha!

    Post # 7
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    3788 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I also was really curious what “Jill off” meant…

    Since “none of the above” is not an option in the poll, I’ll just say it here! I don’t need help. Fiance and I generally know about each other’s habits, too.

    Post # 8
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    555 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @B_Tamara  I totally understand your frustation though from the opposite perspective.  I ‘Jill off” but very infrequently to tide me over if my FH and I go a day or two without.  I came across my FH’s computer history one day and saw he was looking at porn a lot and I am the one with an issue with it.  I have a hard time embracing that he looks at porn when we have sex 5 times a week on average.  We both agree we have great sex.  I absolutely feel like he should just wait for me to get home from work or whatever and not do that in the middle of the day when I’ll be own soon.  I feel like it takes something from us even though I know when I do it it’s harmless.  It’s taken a lot of journaling to deal with my feelings about his use of porn and I may even talk to a counselor to get over it.  I know it can be totally harmless, but it’s the part about it being not sharing it together than can be hard for the SO to deal with.  

    Post # 9
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    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    LMAO – I’ve never heard “Jill Off” that’s awesome! I’ve also never heard of black lace books. Fiance has porn, all dudes have it, it’s not a big deal. I’ve never really seen the appeal of it myself. 

    Post # 11
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    555 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @ B_Tamara   Yeah…I totally understand what you mean about it’s an outlet for the things you’d never do in real life.  I think sometimes the issue comes from our own insecurities and not that there’s anything wrong with what the other person is doing. I know with me that’s the case and it sounds like in your situation what you’re doing is totally healthy too!  Hopefully with some good communication and mutual understanding you two can get through it! 

    Post # 12
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    2532 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Ill watch porn every once in a while by myself, but only when the mood strikes. I said “other” as well because I was talking about toys and didnt see anything about that!

    Post # 13
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    1260 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I definitely use toys and porn, but I am really picky about the porn. I don’t use it as a replacement for Fiance, just as a sort of “me” time when he isn’t around. I don’t think its a big deal.

    I like porn that tends to be more erotic – its not so much about watching others have sex, but the whole lead up that I like. Porn where there is violence or forced sex or anything like that doesn’t do it for me.

    My partner knows about it, but its not a big deal.

    Post # 14
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    1113 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t really need anything to aid me. I have a pretty active imagination. I like to relax and just lie very still. Touching, etc. helps but I don’t use any stories or porn. Sometimes I like to have Fiance text me. 😉

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    this is from 3 years ago .. i bet she’s not interested anymore

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