(Closed) Job advice…husband is getting burnt out.

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with encouraging him to stay at his current job until he finds another one. However, I will causion you that in today’s economy, there are very few professional-level jobs that are 9-5. Workers today need to be flexible and available at all times to jump in, even if it means staying late, coming in early, working weekends, holidays..etc.

I’m not sure what field your Darling Husband works in, but from what you wrote, it doesn’t seem like a field with set hours. I think it would be more beneficial to get him some help with adjusting to non-structured situations than to try to find a job that he will have guaranteed hours with no overtime. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@tmsing:  I’m sorry you’re going through this. I agree that is was wrong of your mom to butt in and say that to your husband.  It sounds like your husband is salaried. Maybe if he found an hourly position where the company would be required to pay him overtime if they kept him late, that would help? My job experience says that corporate companies don’t like paying overtime and so they typically send hourly workers home on time.  I know you said your husband is applying for other jobs, and I think that’s a good idea.  I hope he can find a better job or that his current manager has a break-through.  But we need to know our limits and it sounds like this current job is pushing your husband’s limits.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

There is certainly nothing wrong with encouraging him to stay at his current job while he looks for another one.  To just up and quit without a back-up plan is, no offense, idiotic.  My father did that, and it drove my mother up the wall when he did, because when you just up and quit a job with nothing else in line, there’s no guarantee that there will be another job in time to make up for what’s being lost. 

That said, I think that your husband should, maybe, try to talk to his manager, and press that he needs a solid schedule, and that he won’t be able to do other people’s work if it forces him to go beyond that schedule, and he needs to be firm about it.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m in a similar position as I too work in a corporate professional environment where the work hours can be unpredicatble, and there are no overtime benefits.  It’s tough for me as a wife, to always come home after my husband, and seldom in time for dinner.  That is the nature of the job and as a PP said, in this economy it is what is required in certain fields of work.  I have accepted that I need to either leave and have more time for non-work matters, or have a flexibe mentality and stick it out.  Sometimes you have to analyse the entire situation, weigh the pros and cons, set priorities and boundaries.  If this job frequently interferes with that, I think it would be wise that your husband continues to work while actively seeking out new employment. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You all probably want to get in touch with the EEOC and check out the Americans with Disabilities Act. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

@tmsing:  Since he can do freelancing, and it sounds like he has the possibility of steady work, maybe he can take up freelance while looking into other jobs, instead? 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

He should definitely apply for government jobs.  They can hire him under Schedule A.  Google it.  There are lots of articles about it with advice for how to get hired.  Government jobs are extremely competitive, but because of his autism, he should be able to bypass most of that.

http://www.opm.gov/disability/peoplewithdisabilities.asp

As for quitting his current job, that’s a hard one.  Can you make ends meet without his job?  How about for a year?  The government hiring process is extremely, extremely slow.  I’m a current federal employee.  When they decided they wanted to hire me, it still took about 6 months before I finally started the job!

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