Post # 1
I am getting married to my Fiance in a few months and he is from a culture where the woman stays at home and raises the family and the men goes out and works. In my current job, I have been super stressed out and have not had much time to plan our wedding. He sees how upset this has made me emotionally, physically and has even taken a toll on my health. SO he has suggested that I get an ‘easier’ job where I can have a balance and be home early enough to take care of of future family.
Well I got a job at a private school which would give me EVERYTHING that ticks those boxes. I will get a discount on school fees if I ever choose to send our kids there. I will also be working school hours! Now of course i’ve pannicked and worried that I may be making the wrong decision.
I’m worried that I’ll be bored at this new easier, stress-free job. Also I will be changing from the financial industry in to a ‘less prestigous’ industry (no offense to anyone…this is just based on the city i live in…finance jobs are seen as more desirable).
Also i will be taking a 40% pay cut by taking the school job. Although my Fiance does not care about this since we will still have enough money to live the same standard..we will just be saving less for the long term.
Also I have been looking for less stressful finance jobs, but I dont know if one exists. I asked my current employer if i could go part time. They said this is somethign I could do at the end of the year. It would be less money than the school job, but i would still stay in my industry of choice. This however, could get stressful at time with the same boss and there is a risk that they could fire me if they dont want someone part time. My current boss is very demanding and emails me 7am on a sunday and expects a response. So my Fiance is doubtful that I will be less stressed even at part time!
ahhhh what do i do??
Post # 3
Money isn’t everything. Having been in a job where I hated going to work every day but was paid well and now having taken an almost 50% pay cut and actually enjoying my job and feeling fulfilled, I’d take the job that I enjoy and makes me happy 100% of the time.
Post # 4
Of course you need to consider if a big change like this is right for you. I think you are pvery lucky to have the option of taking a pay cut. and it is nice to think you will still be able to contribute to the family financial situation in the form of reduced school tuition. is the stress at your current job working for you or not. i know at my job although it is stressful, there is a part of me that enjoys beeing the only one who can do my job, even though at the same time that is why i am stressed. time for soul searching i guess
Post # 5
go with the school job. you will be happier with less stress, and money is not everything.
Post # 6
man id love to be able to work for a school! i think that will set you up to be in a great spot for when you start having kids. plus, summers off 🙂
maybe you’ll find a way to use your finance skills within this new position
Post # 7
I think jobs taken for $$ are great, for a limited period of time. I’ve been in the same high-stress job for nearly 5 years now only because the pay is great. I’m looking forward to the day we are able take a pay cut & still be ok- as soon as that happens I’m outta here & will gladly take a paycut for a less stressful job. I say go for it- I was looking into jobs at the local college and figured the tutition break alone (for us & our future kids) would makeup for whatever salary percentage would be lost.
Post # 8
@LucyLaLa: initially i wud thrive off of the challenge of the job. but being in the industry for 6 years now has taken its toll on me. i am not able to go to the gym, make dinner, or even spend time with my Fiance. I have been working 80 hrs per week since December so I am pretty worn out at the moment.
I just worry that i won’t know what to do with myself when I am all of a sudden stressfree! It will be hard to get back into finance later in life after taking the school job.
@September29: Yes I would actually be working in finance dept for a private school. So I will be using the same skills, just less stressful and not a major int’l company.
@Mrs.KMM: did u miss the extra cash when u took the pay cut? I guess with the extra money I am used to spending freely and will now have to watch what I spend.
Post # 9
@Khlobee: I don’t think you should think of it like, “I’ll take this job now but go back to finance in a few years.” That’s not really practical & also it will keep you from being in the moment. About being part time there – does that mean 40 hours a week (since full time is 80) ? Wouldn’t part time also mean part pay? So taking a 40% pay cut for the school job which you know will be slower paced is probably better than taking a 50% pay cut for a job you know will be stressful. You might want to list out the things you don’t have time to do, to remind yourself the first time you feel bored. Like gym.
Post # 10
TAKE the Happiness. Most people don’t have this opportunity. Your life style won’t suffer. I work in Finance too so I get what you are saying but I would have done the school job in a heart beat PLUS you can get a discount on school fees (pretty major, have you looked at school fees lately)?
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Post # 12
Personally, I would not be happy at a job with less stress. I need to busy-ness to be happy at my job. The best days are when you come in and 10 hours later, you are like, “I can’t believe it’s time to go home already!”
Right now, my job has SO MUCH DOWN TIME. I’ve been here for almost a year and a half, and I go nuts trying to keep busy! I miss my old job where we never had enough time to do all the work. I actually left that job because this one pays more, ironically…
Post # 13
@Khlobee: Not for a second. My sanity and happiness day to day is way better than the extra cash I gave up to get it.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Khlobee: I am lucky to love my job but my FH hated his corporate job. He was a pharmaceutical rep. He hated it so much he finally just stopped going to work until they fired him. He is much happier now working contracted positions for set periods of time which allow him to write which is what he really wants to do because it makes him happy.
You have to figure out what situation will make you happiest. Also, you have to protect yourself for just in case your FH keels over and dies one day or leaves you for another woman. Which position is going to ensure that you can remain in the workforce enough that you could return fully or continue to earn an income that you could use to support yourself?
Post # 15
@BoxerLady: wow you situation is almost a mirror image to mine!! what did you decide to do in the end??
Post # 16
Golden handcuffs are very hard to remove. Unfortunately, I know this from experience.
Take the job that will make you happiest.