Post # 1
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Wannabee
Hi I’m new to this board and I have a question for everyone. I am getting married next year and I am having three of my best friends be my bridesmaids. We have been friends since middle school and these girls know me better than my family does. I talked to my sisters and my fiance’s sister about not being bridesmaids and they completely understand but I am having a hard time thinking of something for them to do for the wedding. I feel like something like cutting the cake would be too small of a job for my sisters and future sister in law to do. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
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Busy bee
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
I would maybe have one or two of them do a reading during the ceremony. Officiate? (we’re having a close friend marry us, it was a perfect way to include her without adding BMs) Give them bouquets/corsages to wear so they stand out from the other guests? Make a toast? Mention them in programs, your speech, introductions, somewhere. Please please please do not have them hand out programs/monitor the guestbook/etc etc…. those things are not fun for the person doing them and they tend to miss out on a lot of the fun parts of the reception. (Just my $0.02, no offense to anyone who did this, just from experience they aren’t fun and you feel more like “staff” or a worker than an honored member of the wedding party.)
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
Have you seen those honourary brides maid sashes? I don’ tknow if people take them seriously but they are fun for the reception. I think having them do a reading would be a great idea, making or toast or doing a poem at your ceremony.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
- Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves
I’m in a similar position. I’ll try to get them do a reading and ask them if they want to make a toast, there’s really not a lot to do at my wedding.
Post # 6
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Honey bee
I don’t think you need to find them jobs. Just let them attend the wedding without the extra responsibilities. Ask them to come to the salon beforehand and get your nails and hair done together, and maybe they can help decorate or take down decorations after the event.
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