Post # 1
Hi everyone. I’m in a little bit of a pickle/dilemma. I’m at a job currently that has slowly been eating at me since January. We didn’t make the numbers they were hoping for so they started turning up the heat on us to perform faster, multitask WAY more and I find myself forgetting to eat lunch, sometimes coming home to work on stuff because there’s just too much to do (and I work in a creative field so I have to be uber innovative in this craziness as well). It was already a fast-paced environment and now we’re on a completely ridiculous level of churning out stuff. I have talked to my boss about scheduling and he understands when I have too much to do, but basically they can only temporarily fix things and then I’m back to having a crazy workload. There’s also a weird culture where I feel like people don’t move things off their plate and just deal with it, which I just cannot do anymore.
My fiance has been worried about me too because he sees how this has been affecting me mentally and physically. We both want me to move on to a job that isn’t so taxing (even willing to take a small paycut). The problem is though that my wedding is 6 months away and next year will involve quite a lot of time off for many different events. Has anyone been in this situation before right before the wedding? Have you mentioned time off during your interview or figured out a good work situation that allowed you some breathing room?
Post # 3
It may be hard to find a job that will give you the vacation time when you haven’t been with them for some specific amount of time. Depending on what kind of time you’ll need off (preparation, honeymoon, etc), it may be better to look around for a new job and maybe aim to start a new one after the wedding. Assuming you will be able to get the vacation time at your current job. Just something to consider. We both took new jobs with less than a year until our wedding and may be taking a delayed honeymoon since our vacation time won’t be available until a month after our wedding.
that said, I’m not in favor of keeping jobs that are making me miserable. Jobs affect our home lives as well and being miserable at work is definitely a reason to look for another one! Good luck!!!
Post # 4
In this economy, it can take people months or even years to find a new position. You don’t have to launch into full-fledged search mode but IMO, you should start updating your resume, getting in touch with networking contacts and putting stuff out there NOW. You can always turn down jobs if you can’t come to an agreement about pre-scheduled vacation time, but don’t wait until you’re at the end of your rope to start looking.
Post # 5
@sunflwr02: I’m going to a funeral this weekend for someone whose job made them miserable and stressed beyond words.
So I’d start looking now, and hopefully you can plan to start your new job after your honeymoon!
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@sunflwr02: Nothing hurts in looking around to see what is available. You might find something worth switching jobs for and you might not. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you were a month or two out I would say to wait but 6 months is a lot of time to continue working a job you no longer like and want to get out of sooner rather than later.
Post # 7
Sigh, thanks everyone for your reply. I think it will be a keeping my options open and seeing what’s out there situation. I wish there was a thing such as “sanity leave”, would definitely be taking that right now 🙂
Post # 8
I’m looking for one right now while building a home and planning a wedding in 6 months. You can always stipulate that you will take the job as long as they understand there is some time off involved with a wedding. Most employers are understading. Its not like your wedding is a month after you start…but you’ll find that they are pretty flexible with thingg like that as logn as you let them know when you are at the interview. I’m even going to ask for a few extra PTO days just in case I actually get sick I mean why not? The worst they could do is say no.
Also, its a heck of a lot easier to look for a job while you have a job so if one company says no they can’t guarentee that time off, then move along.