Post # 17
I wouldn’t. I don’t think it’s a big deal to not wear your ring for all of an hour or two while you are doing interviews. If you choose to change your name or add your Darling Husband to your benefits, then you can let people know then. I also don’t think it comes off as being deceptive; you don’t have to tell people, “I got engaged last year!” Most people, once you are hired, won’t even notice.
I don’t think the worry here is that you are getting married. In the grand scheme of things, what is one week off for a honeymoon (for example)? The main issue would be that as a newly wed, you may want to have children ASAP and that’s when it gets challenging for them in terms of making sure they have coverage and whether you will come back or not post-baby.
Post # 18
I’d wear the ring 🙂 You said that you don’t plan on taking time off (wedding/honeymoon related), so it’s not as though they’d need to find coverage for your classroom. Good luck on the interview!
Post # 19
I can’t believe this is even an issue. Men don’t have to deal with this. It’s so discriminatory.
Post # 20
@OnceUponATime: how will they know when you are planning your wedding just because of your ring? I would wear it.
Post # 21
I recently interviewed for a position and definately wore my ring! It’s sparkly and obvious. I was offered the job. After I accepted I told them I was getting married in October and would take x amount of days off. It was fine. I was told, “We don’t want her missing out on a great opportunity because she’s getting married”. In fact, they are a hiring a temp for me!
If it’s the right place for you, it won’t matter. If they want you, they will hire you.
I think not being honest about it all, is weird, for any reason. Why would you hide a huge part of your life? What if they did hire you, saw the ring after and then it was a problem? They could always say you didn’t disclose that. This isn’t about getting married or not. It’s about YOUR ability to do your job. Show them you can and nothing else will be an issue.
Post # 22
@love108: Men can get discriminated against if they are a certain age and not wearing a ring as far as promotions and managerial decisions go. If the OP was talking about a wedding band, it would be different.
Post # 23
@lilbluebird: I’ll be a newlywed and not the least bit interested in having children. Unfair assumption. But you are right…no one has to say anything about engagement, nor should they in an interview.
@love108: Agree. I think this should be a non-issue.
I also want to know why any ring worn on the ring finger is instantly considered engagement? I used to wear rings often of my left hand, ring finger. I know that is our spot for the e-ring, but just let them assume. I feel you are making a issue when there isn’t one. Good luck on the interview!!!!
Post # 24
I would not wear it. If there’s even a chance it could be perceived negatively, I would skip it. You can’t help some things, but why not do everything you can help? My opinion.
Post # 25
I vote no… Just because discrimination shouldn’t happen, doesn’t mean that it won’t. There’s a reason employers arenlt allowed to ask questions about your marital status in an interview. Why give them any information that is not 100% relevant to the position you’re applying for.
Post # 26
i dont see how its dishonest? engagement rings are not required….some ppl dont even have one. i wouldnt lie but i also wouldnt bring it up. regardless of OP intwntion to take honwymoon, have kids (or not) it gives them reason to question you (in their mind) & if this job is important why even give them a question
Post # 27
My engagement ring helped me! At the end if my interview my new manager was like “so you’re getting married and relocating.. We decided all good things happen in threes and we’d love to offer you the job!!”
Post # 28
@Chelwilly: Was your interviewer a woman? Just a note.
Post # 29
In this tight market, why risk not being hired for something you can control so easily?
Post # 30
@love108: I actually had a 2 day, 9 hr interview process; 4 different people interviewed me. The one with a final say was a woman! I don’t think it matters though, because the first interviewer that interviewed me 3 times was a man and he mentioned my engagement ring in a positive note.
I go I to interviews 100% as myself. If I’m engaged, I’m wearing my engagement ring. I’m relocating later this month. I interviewed at 3 different places and got 3 job offers (I’m an insurance broker). I wore my engagement ring at every interview.
Post # 31
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@OnceUponATime: For a corporate job, anybody in their early 20s is drama but wearing a ring may mean more stability so you should be fine wearing it.