- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Im on the fence….I am engaged and have an interview in 3 days….four of them actually, and in my previous jobs i have helped talk to new canidates……many of whom wearing engagement rings/wedding sets…..and it was never more then….ok…..they probably wont be moving around all the time. as nurses generally its a rule of thumb you dont wear big rings at work….so its not like alot of jobs where someone shows up one day wearing a big sparkly new e-ring….so we often hear by word of mouth when one of us gets engaged….and i dont feel like its that big of an issue as someone whos talked to new potential hires….in any way other than “what a beautiful ring!” followed by a polite thank you, and then if anythng was mentioned about the wedding, usually when it was(all voluntary) what threw me was young girls with HUGE rings, because they were usually doing as most women do and flashing it around and “drawing attention to it” ie….staring at it during interview and calling attention to it by fiddling with it….most of the time we didnt notice….but i can see not wearing to avoid questions….but if your not honest what if they hire you and then you get married and then they are clueless when they get turned down for a quick sub from you say the friday of your wedding weekend??? like set up and rehersal day?? i just feel its better to be honest….Honestly I am wearing mine, my wedding is over a year away…its never been an for any nurse i know to get a job wearing one….because honestly this day in age many women who are completely single wear rings on their left ring finger….that mean absolutely nothing….and as another bee mentioned they can not discriminate against you because of marital status…..
Just remember if you ware it….dont try and hide it or draw attention to it….if asked…awnser honestly…tell them “Why yes i am getting married, but anyhoneymoon plans we have are on hold until probably a school break as i wouldnt want it to interfere with job oppertunities here”
also when ive met with new potential hires….the “young engaged, i didnt get the job because of my ring” statements usually came from girls who had royally jacked the interview before the ring was even noticed, wether it was by qualifiactions lacking, rudeness (it does happen), if your 23 and everyother word out of your mouth is like and uhm thats not good, or my favorite….was a gal who tried to call discrimination against a facility i was working at (A catholic faith based NURSING HOME) who the reason she didnt get the job was not her very lovely engagement ring…but rather, her almost obscene amount of cleavage, super tight pants that showed her thong when she sat down, open toed stripper heels, club hair and make up, french whore house amount of perfume and looking like she was hung over, ohh and dropping the F bomb when she first walked into the nurses station…..granted she was extreme….
SO I guesse what Im saying is a word of caution….DO NOT ASSUME THAT THE ONLY REASON YOU WERE NOT OFFERED A POSITION IS BECAUSE YOU WORE A RING ON YOUR FINGER, THERE ARE MANY REASONS, SOME BEING SOMETIMES THERE IS JUST SOMEONE MORE QUALIFIED OR WHO THEY FEEL WOULD BE A BETTER FIT, BUT IF YOU FEEL YOU SHOULDNT….DONT!