(Closed) Job Interview

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I don’t think they’d be turned off. I have that same dilemma only he’s just my “boyfriend,” ugh!  I usually say something like fiance so they know because we’ve been dating over 6 years so he’s quite a bit more that “just a boyfriend.”  

Post # 4
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576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Why do you need to bring up him up at all? Did you relocate because of his work? 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes I do think that could be a turnoff just because they’ll expect you to be taking a significant amount of time off. I would come up with a different answer completely unrelated to him. It is illegal for an interviewer to ask about your personal life including marital status and it is usually better not to discuss it. Say something along the lines of the economy is not faring very well in your area and the abundance of opportunities in the area really attracted you.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Pupperoni: Wow that’s pretty back handed! If they are asking you that, they are definitely trying to legally fish for info amount your relationship status. 

I’d seriously try to avoid mentioning it, because if they are asking you questions like that, they clearly are trying to subtly weed out those people who might go on marternity leave or relocate again for their significant others.

You shouldn’t directly lie of course. But try to come with another way of looking at it. Maybe, “I’ve recently moved here to the city to seek out new opportunities. But I’m looking to make it my permanent home, if that’s your concern”. Focus on the fact, that your staying in the city, rather than why you came there in the first place.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would just try to avoid talking about my SO in a job interview if at all possible.  Ditto kids, dogs, etc. It’s not really relevant.  But if it couldn’t be avoided, I wouldn’t say husband instead of fiance because what if you get hired? Aren’t they going to wonder why you’re getting married? lol

P.S.  If it was my boyfriend, yes I would say “fiance” because it just sounds better.

Post # 9
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576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

and if you must bring him up. Call him your “significant other”, its vague but entirely appropriate. Don’t mention any time you’d need off for your wedding/honeymoon until you have a job offer.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I have a similar worry at  interviews. My husband is in the military so we’re usually only in one place for a few years and we kept our home state as residency (my drivers license says Michigan with my parents address- not the address of the home I own in VA). Whenever someone asks how I got down here I always give the vague “change in scenery” answer. I don’t know how long I’ll be here so I figure less is more. I personally don’t think employers will have a problem with wedding plans- if you say “husband” they may wonder whether or not you’re interested in getting pregnant. In most of my interviews after I mention “my husband” the interviewer will casually ask about children and pregnancy.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

@MissShork: Oh I love that way of explaining a move!  That sounds so beautifully professional. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@LaurenK0105: thanks. I’m Human Resource major so I’m a nerd for interview/recruitment related things 😛

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