Post # 1
to my fellow bees :
something CRAZY happened yesterday. around 3:30 in the afternoon, i was sitting at my desk at work when i got a call from my fiance.
“guess what?” he said
“what?” i replied, anticipating something funny or witty as usual…
“i got fired.”
after being employed at his job for about 18 months, he was “let go” because his boss is a crazy cat lady and didn’t like him from the beginning. she passed him up for a promotion and never EVER gave him a positive review. actually, i don’t think she ever gave him a review at all. no discipline policy whatsoever for this company. what bullocks! the controller of the company and his boss tagteamed him in a room for about 20 minutes saying they were “disappointed in his performance” and felt that he “undermined the [his] boss”. having had no warning that this was coming, it was a complete shock.
our wedding is in 3 months. we just put 2 months rent down on an apartment for this year. i am so conscious about money and feel that i am being screwed because this woman has control issues and has to manage everything at my fiance’s former job. does she even realize she never gave him fair warning or any sort of notice at all that he was on the chopping block?
there are so many questions in my mind. how are we supposed to financially support ourselves when one of us is out of work? i am a public servant, work for the state and don’t make much money.
are any of you ladies suffering through something similar? HELP!
Post # 3
Oh no! Currently my husband and I are living on a very tight budget. You need to really watch what you are spending. I cut out all unnecessary shopping (no clothes, coffees, etc), we eat at home pretty much all the time. My husband brings lunch with him to work instead of buying it. We haven’t had the air or heat on in a few months because it has been mild out. A lot of girls swear by coupons but I don’t get it. We have a membership to Costco and the savings on big things like toilet paper, allergy meds, etc make the membership pay for itself. I save up % off coupons and use websites that give you cash back for all purchases so I get extra money from that. You can do it! It is just about being creative!
Post # 4
We’re getting married in September and I found out a month ago that I won’t have a job next year (I’m a teacher) and thus, will have no insurance and no pay after July. I’m looking for jobs but it’s pretty stressful because we’ve paid all these non-refundable deposits. However, I’m trying to be thankful that FI’s job is secure and that everything happens for a reason. Hang in there, I know it’s tough and stressful!
Post # 5
Stop spending money unnecessarily and get him to start looking for a job! That’s all you can do.
Post # 6
This happened to us too! My fiance was let go one month after our engagement, and luckily we have enough time to make things work. We can live comfortably off of my income, and he decided to apply to grad school. He got in two weeks later and will start this summer with a full-time paying internship along with it. We’ve been unbelievably fortunate, and the minute he starts bringing in a paycheck, it’s all going to our savings account until we get enough in there to pay 4-6 months of expenses.
Post # 7
have him file for unemployment immediatly! they will give it to you even if you are fired in some cases and he can at least have some money while he looks!!!!
Post # 8
I agree with vistagirl that I would apply for unemployment but it really depends on the state. Where we used to live, you had to be out of a job for no fault of your own which usually means you were fired. The employer has to verify it though.
Post # 9
I am with the other bees suggesting unemployment. Its not the best and its not as much but if he can get it, it will help. Then hunt hunt hunt for a new job, which again sucks in this economy.
Buckle down on your budget. Cut out anything you don’t need. We didn’t have cable for quite awhile and I would use wifi hotspots or my neighbors, with permission, for the internet. I too am not a coupon girl. I forget them everytime I go. It ends up being a huge wasted effort for me. I do shop some mad sales and if it’s not on sale or clearance I generally don’t buy it. Even online before you purchase something google sales/coupon codes for _______ to see if you can’t get them cheaper.
With the wedding do you already have everything paid for? If not can you diy on some things that you weren’t planning on before?
Cling to one another during this time of stress and financial struggle. It will bring you closer. It’s going to be hard I’m sure but you both can get through it together.
Post # 10
I completely understand what you are saying. I went to work one day and I got an email from the big wigs. I knew they were laying individuals off but what happened was a complete suprised. They laid us off on the spot and told us we had to be out by Noon. Everyone else they laid off had at least 3 weeks notice to get things in order. We got the short end of the stick. When we got back to our computers, it was locked and we couldn’t get nothing off of it. I was a complete shock because the next day I was suppose to give my photographer a deposit and we just paid our first month’s rent and deposit on our new apartment. My Fiance and I were planning on getting married next year…but we decided to put our wedding off until we can financially support this wedding. I am getting unemployment but I would not use that for my wedding. I am actually saving half of my unemployment that way if I do not have a job when my unemployment runs out we will still have some savings.