(Closed) Job Nightmares, continued…

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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jkat84:  Maybe just keep searching, taking a lower paying job that will make you busier and have less time with your DH and no benefits doesn’t sound like a really great move. And it could cause issues in your relationship to boot. 

I understand having a job you hate, but I would personally hang in there until you find a better solution. Are there any ways to make your current job more tolerable in the meantime?

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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jkat84:  Describe miserable? Like your boss is harrassing you daily or the word grind just sucks? I would never quit a job without having one but I also couldn’t stomach quitting a job where I’m able to comfortably make ends meet to a job that JUST makes ends meet where I’d have to sacrifice other things AND work weekends. No way man.

Keep looking for another job, 3 months to a year isn’t that long. Bank your extra money so you can have some flexibility once your Fiance finds out where he will actually be working. I assume him going through training and such will mean you will be moving eventually.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Hi bee! Let me start off by saying do NOT stay in a job that makes you unhappy. I have been doing it and unfortunately am forced to stay in a job I hate because of a lease in a different city.

My health has been declining. When I am off work, it is like I am a new person. My friends and family have all set me down to tell me to find something that makes me happy.

As far as money- I have found that you need to make it work. My Fiance and I are going to be making the same amount of money when I take another job back home (I will be making 30k less and he will be making 30k more), but we have both decided that happiness is EVERYTHING in life.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I wouldn’t even care if the job was more then half of what I was getting. I stayed in a job for a year that made me so unhappy I became depressed and extremely anxious.  I’m back in the same position right now, and I am actively searching for a new job. 

It’s not worth it, no matter the money situation. You can always make money somehow but you will never get back the years you spent waking up everyday dreading going to work.  I worked 75 hours on average a week to please my boss (who decided he didn’t need me anymore because he was cheap) during my wedding, and as such I regret it so much looking back knowing what I know now. 

Career advancements are so important to be happy and healthy!

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I hear ya! My Fiance is going to Navigator school in FL this fall (I’m going with him). I HATE my current job (a source of unnecessary stress and anxiety) and I want to change jobs! But it seems silly to him and I to go through the job hunt here, get a new job, then move in 9ish months. So alas, I stick it out. 🙁 

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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jkat84:  Here’s the thing – you can be making a million dollars, but if you are so miserable that you wake up and go to bed angry, and it causes stresses in your relationships, it’s not worth the million dollars (not to mention any future issues that can develop from work unhappiness). You have to be happy. I do volunteer work with a guy who was a corporate attorney. He hated his job, was overworked, and pretty much had no quality of life. He always wanted to do canine massage, even though he knew he wouldn’t make a living from it. He quit his corporate law job, went to school in Chicago for canine massage certifications and is so much happier now. I took a class from him at the animal shelter and he talked about how his quality of life changed by 100%. In my mind, as long as you are still able to pay your bills and make the math work, go for the happiness factor. 

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Why not keep looking and see if you can find anything better than the offer you got? I’m not sure what kind of area you are in and what kind of work is available to you but if you’re leaving in 3 to 12 months could you look for temp or contract work? That might be a good excuse to change jobs too, you need something more flexible for when you do leave? Not sure that would help with the insurance or benefits though. Try your best to stick it out but if it is truly impacting your life in a negative way, then yeah you need to find something else.

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