- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
My fiancee has been presented with a job opportunity with a base salary that is $32,000 less than his current fixed salary. It is a newly-established company and his business area takes off, it could mean a good amount of commission in the long run. However, him and his potential associates would be starting this from the ground up, which in the short run means zero commission.
It is an exciting prospect for him, but I can’t get past the money issue. I have no problem contributing more than I currently am to our expenses (we’ve been living together for about a year; I am currently funneling away a lot of my paycheck into savings for a future home purchase), but there will not be a large amount of “leftover” money after our fixed expenses are paid, which means little to spend and little to save.
We have six weddings this year before our own, all out of town, creating a travel and accommodation expense. Additionally, we are each in one of the wedding parties, which is an additional expense. On top of everything, we have our own wedding where we will be paying for a number of expenses including the honeymoon, wedding bands, bridal party gifts, etc.
With his salary now, all of these expenses are feasible. Yes, there wouldn’t be a lot left to save, but there would be no need to dip into savings or accumulate credit card debt. I have never had credit card debt and I’m not willing to even go there.
How can I be happy for him and be excited about a potential financial windfall in the future when I am so focused on the lack of money over the next few months? I want to be able to enjoy all of these events this year, especially my own wedding, but how can I when I’m watching each dollar like a hawk?