(Closed) Job Opportunity, Not-So-Happy FI (a little long)

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
3468 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

How long are they willing to hold the job? can your Fiance apply for jobs and see if he gets any response? Being in a relationship is always about compromise and sometimes you compromise and sometimes he does. I can’t tell you what to do, but if you feel like you need to take this job for yourself have a serious talk with your Fiance. He may not realize how much you need this. Good luck!!

Post # 4
2497 posts
Buzzing bee

It makes financial sense for you to take the job. Is your Fiance giving you any solid reasons for wanting to stay? You hadn’t mentioned any of them here.

Post # 5
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@luluvohn:  I 100% agree with @prettyinpink11:.  It sounds as though they know you well, so I’d definitely see how long they’d be willing to hold the position.  Since you do know the priest fairly well, you should be very upfront and explain the situation … Let him know that while you’re very interested in the job and think it could be a great move for you, you want to make sure your fiance is also able to find a job in the area before making the commitment to move that far from where you are now.  Who knows?  He may even have some suggestions of local places in need of help!

You’ll also have to have a serious conversation with your fiance.  It’s important to let him know how unhappy you are in your current job situation and how concerned you are about the benefits being cut in December.  

I hope things work out for you both!

Post # 7
404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Something to think about though – even though the salary is double your current, the cost of living in NJ is probably (in some areas) double that of parts of Florida.


Good luck! 

Post # 8
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sometimes change is a good thing… a new environment, new people, etc. will lead to new opportunities. Summer in FL is brutal. I would tell him to try out NJ for a year (this would be a good time to get out of FL anyway) and if life is still sucking for him a year after the move, you can try something else. 

Sounds like you guys have nothing to lose, so why not take the chance. 

Post # 9
3053 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

You need to take it. I would DEFINITELY take it!!! He’s not making enough money to make up for the salary increase and honestly, if he’s making minimum wage or just above it, he will be able to find a job up there because he doesn’t have a minimum salary requirement. It might just be in a different field.

@FutureMrsLadolcetta: made a good point though.How does COL in NJ comparable to here? (I live in Orlando lol) I’ve heard NJ is very expensive. But at the same time, I can’t imagine it’s double…Orlando is fairly expensive. We pay almost $1200 in rent just for a 2/2.

It sounds like a great opportunity and I couldn’t imagine passing it up! Plus it moves you home & close to your family, closer to his, and he doesn’t like his job now. I don’t know what reason he could possibly come up with to stay. It sounds like it’s just stubborness

Post # 10
2206 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would say the job market is much better in the NJ area than FL – there are probably as many hospitality type jobs available (in NYC or the shore for summer work) and a lot more “professional” jobs


but its true about cost of living…. depending on where you live it could be double or more (for instance I currently live in Jersey City and a 2bed/2bath would be about $2500) but if you are more in the ‘burbs then its probably more like $1500 ish which isn’t terrible.

Also if kids are in your future then this might be a good chance to get closer to your families bc it makes it a lot easier

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