(Closed) ** Job Seeking Bees’ Support Thread**Part 2

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hey there, I am joining the ranks as a post-grad looking for work. My work-story is a little unique as I have pretty much only ever had work through friends or family. I’m branching out this year and taking some new opportunities in the film industry. I have been a freelance artist from home for a while now, selling my items over places like amazon and etsy while auditioning and looking for a more permanent position in the entertainment industry. My worst job/best job was being a full time live-in nanny for a few summers in a row. For four kids, all under the age of ten. It was pretty crazy. ๐Ÿ˜› 

No tips for keeping sanity but gas is eating up our finances and Darling Husband and I are actually considering moving very close to his work as he has a long commute as of now. Hoping to help him out soon when I get a full time job. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We are considering moving to LA. I have a showcase for agents working with Disney and other companies in Orlando in June. We’ll see where it goes from there ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m hoping for a job offer or an agent to sign me on. Disney is a great place to work for. 

Gas D: ahhhh. Darling Husband was so upset yesterday because he totalled up our spending for the past month and we were short SO much due to gas. Simply gas. We spend up to 1k every two months just from our area and commutes. It’s ridiculous. Right now gas is taking up more of our paycheck than rent, food, water and electric. Crazy! I can’t wait to get out of here. Hopefully my freelance job will bring in more money this summer as well as I’m finally selling my old wedding decor on here post-graduation. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ah glad to see this thread is alive and well!  No updates from me yet, just waaaaaaiting lol

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I’ve applied to a couple more jobs. All admin type positions. I’m feeling quite down because I don’t know who I am in this whole job search. All through school I really put myself out there and worked super hard, and I don’t know what it was all for. I wanted to be a reporter for the longest time, but being a reporter would mean moving far away from my home and my fiance. Part of me wants to have a new adventure, but the other part really just wants to settle down in a 9-5 and start a family together. I’m really confused. Has anyone else ever felt like this?

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@bearlove:  I’m still waiting as well. So i feel your pain.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I applied for three relatively far-flung reporter positions today. Glad I did!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@sherryberry:  I felt that way too when I was searching for a job (before finding the crazy one I have now, you can read about that on the 12th page of Part 1). I have worked so hard, double majored, and have been super involved in the community my ENTIRE LIFE. I am a first generation college grad and I feel like all I’ve done and gone through was all supposed to lead to my “destiny”. Well, here I am, feeling so stuck in this job–a job that I was so so desperate for in a city with no real leads.

When you’ve worked towards a goal for so long, and then you find yourself with greasy hair, applying for the most random jobs ever, and doing a happy dance when you get an automated email from an obscure company with a DIY logo, reality and insecurity eventually seep in. All that passion, drive, and longing you once had begins to fade. You’re bound to reach a point where you ask yourself “WHAT THE CRACK IS WRONG WITH ME?” You feel like you don’t belong, like you’re not good enough. An ugly little voice whispers all your dreams are really out of reach: you were silly for believing in them, and silly for believing in yourself enough to even dream big in the first place. Your standards begin to lower because you stop believing that you are capable of more. You begin to lose yourself in the process.

DON’T DO IT. DON’T LOSE YOURSELF.

I graduated in May, eloped (only family knows) in August, and I started my 8:30-5 job at the end of November. Once I started working, to my surprise I began to get comfortable and even started picturing our future life in Florida! I thought of kids, and settling down, and basically staying at this company forever. I began to act, think and feel like a frumpy, hopeless little blob–and I started to be ok with it. Well, comfort slowly morphed into more insecurity and fear. I started telling myself I couldn’t walk away from a full time job like this in the midst of this job market. As time has passed all those feelings I had while job-hunting have actually multiplied. The only thing that kept me sane was volunteering at a nursing home. Up until a few weeks ago I felt like a trapped soul with no potential. I felt like leaving my first full time job after 6 months would taint my resume, stress our finances, ruin any chances for jobs recommendations, and make me a failure.

I understand we all have to “pay our dues” and that it will take time to get to where we want to be in our life/career. But I also think we have to be wise “shoppers”.I’m switching to a part time, minimum wage job, because it somehow aligns with my passions better. I never imagined I could follow through with what others may view as a “downgrade” but I have peace about it. Hooray! About time, and I have my mom to thank for encouraging me to do something else.

No, I’m not saying everyone should do exactly what I did/am doing (and def. no greasy hair required).

I’m saying I learned my lesson: No matter what your job situation is, don’t lose yourself. Invest in your passions, the things that move you, the dreams you had when you weren’t so consumed by adulthood. Even on the side if that’s what it takes! Think of all that you can offer, and how uniquely, fearfully, and wonderfully made you are. Don’t settle for less than what you deserve. ll the people that have accomplished something “great” in their life–they were ALL visionaries. They lived in pursuit of the visons that lay behind their closed eyes. They were not complacent, they did not settle/give up, they kept their hope. The stayed true to themselves without regret no matter what people thought or said. You can too<3

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

Amazing post. Wow. Thank you so much for that. I really don’t know what else to say. Tears in my eyes right now…

 

I felt a great sense of relief after applying for those reporter jobs and I will continue to apply for reporter jobs across the country. In fact, I already received a reply from one editor who said he will be looking more closely at my clips and calling me in a couple of days. Recieving that email made me more excited and happy than I have been in weeks! I CAN do this and I am not going to give up on my passion. You have helped that to gel in my mind, so thank you again.

ps. I do have greasy hair ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m just joining in. I’m living in Alabama and I still have two years of undergrad left to go to finish a biomedical science degree. I’m about to relocate to a bigger city and I’ve been unemployed for about a month now.

I’ve had such a hard time finding work where I live now, and over the last two years I’ve been employed at places between a 10 minute drive to an hour. And now that I’m moving to a bigger city I’m finding more available jobs but also competing with more people for those jobs. Then there’s the issue of two large companies going out of business within the last week which makes me nervous.

So far I’ve applied to 17 jobs and only heard from one that fell through because apparently there was a communication error and I interviewed for a job that was no longer available.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I need some advice bees: I’m currently working Freelance (altho I haven’t had any clients in a while) and part time as a Nanny. The girl is 13, about to turn 14 (I was already babysitting at her age and allowed to stay home by myself) and really doesn’t need me anymore. These jobs that I keep applying to and interviewing for all want me to come in on a trial basis (Which I’m certainly thrilled about) but I still have this job and therefore can’t give them all of my time. Should I drop the part time job so that I can open myself up to these trials? What do you think?

(a little background, I’m 28, living at home with my parents since I can’t afford to live on my own, SO lives at home with his Mom but makes just about enough to support himself if he were to move out, but has recently found out his job may be done away with at the end of the year.)

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