Job Stress, Family Drama, I Just Want to Run Away

posted 12 months ago in Emotional
Post # 2
Member
5190 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Deep breath!!

Everything you wrote would make me nutty too! Completely understand why you’re at your wits end. This too shall pass.

Your coworker sounds absolutely insane. Have your little party at work with tea and scones and don’t let her partake in any of it. She deserves it.

Sister in law’s can be hit or miss. Yours sound like the latter. Don’t lose sleep over her pretty Facebook drama. 

Sorry to hear about your mom! No words advice there, just sympathy. 

As for your fiance and his sex jokes- tell him to cut them out or he’ll be using his hand even after the wedding! Lol.

Good luck! 

Post # 3
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2707 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Take some time for self-care – it is SO important.  Take a bath with a glass of wine and a good book.  Make yourself a blanket fort and stay in there colouring in.  Give yourself a facial.  Do something that is just for you to help relieve the stress!

Post # 4
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101 posts
Blushing bee

I hope your stress level has gone done since you posted. I’ve dealt with family members with cancer, too, and I know how upsetting that can be. Take good care of yourself. If your fiancé isn’t outdoorsy, but you are interested in hiking, think about using Meetup.com to find a hiking club.

You said you and your fiancé will be moving in a few months? Do you plan on changing jobs at that time? Maybe you can start job hunting now. Being proactive about the future might help you feel less helpless about your work situation.

Being abstinent while in a relationship can be stressful for both parties. Maybe he’s just dealing with his stress in an awkward way. He’s probably also trying to let you know that he thinks you’re sexy, and he’s probably really looking forward to sex. Be honest with him about how you feel, but maybe there are ways you can show him that you think he’s sexy, too.

 mellicontent :  

Post # 5
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1030 posts
Bumble bee

mellicontent : 

First things first. Stop being a people-pleaser. It will only bring on unneeded stress. Personally, I ignore and don’t befriend miserable, toxic coworkers. Every office has them! You’ll never avoid it, even if you change jobs. If they don’t like me because I keep our conversations limited to work only, the so be it. The upside is I’m not dragged into their drama. 

Use the above advice for sisters-in-laws. Ignore them, and anyone else causing you headache. Focus your attention on your mom. She needs you more than anyone. To get her mind off of the cancer, involve only her in wedding details. You don’t need a bunch of outside opinions. You have a vision for your big day—stick to it. 

Fiance: Remind him you want a healthy sexual relationship, and his acting like a sexually deprived cave man is not turning you on. What you need to do his hint at what does turn you on so that you can be equally excited about your first experience together. It is nice he finds you so sexually attractive, and I anticipate you’ll have a great sex life. However, not all women are turned on when their guy talks to them like they’re a phone sex girl. You don’t want to build sexual resentment toward him, so now is the time to sort this out. 

If the pill isn’t working for you, and you don’t adjust to it, ask about other options until you find the right one for you. 

Lastly, can you take up yoga or some other exercise you can turn to when feeling stressed? This may help lift your mood a bit during this chaotic time in your life. 

Post # 6
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1581 posts
Bumble bee

In My Humble Opinion if you’re feeling this worn down, I would think it’s time for your fiance to step up and take on some of this stuff.  You’re a team.  What can he help take off your plate?

Post # 7
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1581 posts
Bumble bee

haha—stupid wb autochanged my I M H O…I was not being humble.  I was being honest 🙂

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