Post # 1
and a hard place.
Background: Almost 2 years ago I quit my job (on good terms) and moved out of state with my boyfriend. A few months ago he got a transfer back to our home state. When I left my job, my neighbor was hired-by lots of pull by me. When my work got notice of me transferring back to MA they asked me if I wanted my job back. Cool right? Wrong, they would have to fire my neighbor-who is really good friends with my mom. I turned them down saying that is a really crappy situation to be in and wouldn’t want to be responsible for her to be fired. If she ever left on her own then to call me.
Fast-forward to end of last year: My neighbor is constantly complaining about the job. She tells me what whine-boxes everyone there is, can’t stand doing travel (ya..1/2 our company is over in Europe so people are constantly traveling back and forth), and is just plain miserable. She tells me all the time that once she sells her house-currently on the market- that i can have this “boring” job back. She has been complaining to me ever since.
Fast-forward to this week: I stopped by my office, which I occasionally do when I am in the area. I was talking to my manager and was saying that they are on the verge of firing my replacement because she constantly refuses to do travel and other things that management has thrown her way. They asked me again that if she was let go would I take the position. I said yes 🙁
Does this make me a bad person..I have tremendous guilt because I like my neighbor, I really do. But she is miserable there and has been complaining to me on a daily basis about how much she hates the job and that I “can have it” once she sells her house. I, myself, have been looking for a job since I moved back and have yet to find anything. However, in the past week I have been on multiple interviews to a few interesting places but none compare to the people and my job from before.
But I loved my job..it was cake! It pays extremely well because of the field its in. But I am at the point where I am starting to resent my neighbor because she is constantly complaining about the job and the people in the company. I have tried many times to tell her that she is lucky to have the job. That there are people out there like me that have been looking for jobs but can’t find anything. And to please not complain in front of me anymore, but that lasts about 5 mins and then she is back to complaining about it.
Please tell me Bee’s…what would you do in this situation? Would you take the job back or pass?
Post # 3
I really don’t think you are in a bad situation there. She doesn’t seem to like the job and wants to leave it. It’s unfortunate that she let it get that bad that they are considering firing her but it sounds like she might be moving away soon so maybe you won’t have to deal with her as much?
Post # 4
I don’t see the issue. She got HERSELF into a situation where she’s about to be fired because of her poor attide. I’m sure if she’d been as stellar and employee as you, they wouldn’t be asking you to come back all the time.
Post # 5
I would take the job back. She is causing herself pain by the attitude and poor code towards workmanship/travel. She would be fired if you moved back or not, so it is a great oppurantity for you. You might even be doing her a favor…since she seems to be soo unhappy that she can’t stop complain for five mins about it.
Post # 6
Thanks you ladies! I feel slightly better. I just feel so guilty that I am taking over a job that a neighbor/friend of mine that is going to be fired from. I feel 51% happy to get the job back (and for selfish reason of banking some major $$ for my dream wedding) and 49% guilty for the same reason.
I will eventually get over the guilt…at some point. At least on a bright side she will have the summer off with severance and unemployment!
Post # 7
If I were you, I would definitely take the job back.
Post # 8
Life’s tough and whiners don’t get ahead. I’d take the job and not feel an inch sorry for it. If they’re already planning on firing her, chances are she’s a bad employee to begin with. And running her mouth doesn’t make it better. It’s a shame she gets to reap the benefits of unemployment in the meantime and enjoy a free break, ha!
Post # 9
It’s tough because you don’t want the animosity between your mom/you and the neighbor once she gets fired; however, she is doing this to herself. YOU have to remember that she complains all the time, and that YOU did the nice thing by not having them fire her when you came back. Now, it’s all up to her and she’s not doing it.
Post # 10
Take the job back. It seems like the universe is wanting you to return to your previous job, and there could be worse situations to be in. Obviously she doesn’t enjoy the job, and would you rather they fired her ANYWAY and gave the job to someone else?
Post # 11
You put your professional reputation on the line when you suggested her for the job. She’s had enough time to prove herself and is in fact doing many things that are going to get her fired. Take back the job without guilt. Trust me, I’ve spent the last year looking for work. After more than 100 resumes sent out I have a job offer — at a nice job that pays 1/2 what I made before. You liked the job, she didn’t, if she holds it against you too bad for her!