- 5 years ago
Hey bees! I’m in need of some advice or suggestions if anyone has been in a similar situation.
I work for a costume workroom and am in a salaried position. My job is to lead the workroom. This means I assign tasks to 10-12 employees every day per their skill level. Some tasks will take all day, some won’t. I am constantly checking their work, answering questions, making sure the quality level is where it should be. I am the only person in this position, there are no other leads.
Currently, we are working on several big projects concurrently. The problem is, my boss has not explained to me enough information for me to effectively plan out projects to keep employees busy. We get to a certain point with something and have to either wait for supplies (zippers, fabric, hooks & eyes, etc) or I simply don’t know the next step and have to keep going to him to find out what to do. This has been a recurring problem for the 2 years I’ve worked for him. He always says he understands and will get better but never does. He has a lot of narcisisstic traits and is emotionally eruptive at the same time. This means he won’t take responsibility for his own failures and could at any point get overly angry at a project being done incorrectly, when the project was done according to the information I had when it was assigned. Its not ideal, but it is getting better slowly. We really have too many projects at the moment for the time we have and no proper preproduciton/planning was accomplished.
This leads me to my husband raising valid points. Since I am on salary I have been expected to work 60+ hours every week for the last month. He is concerned that I am being taken advantage of and I totally see his point. I realize that salary means more hours, but no time off has been scheduled for me or offered. And I should mention that my salary comes with no additional benefits at the moment due to the company being young. I was told when I took this position to not look at the hours on a weekly basis but a monthly one. Well, here we are nearing the end of the month and my hours are fairly high. My husband thinks I should simply take another day off. I worked a 9 hour day today, so he thinks I should take Monday off. I think this would not be fair since there is no one who can fill in for me. The people who report to me would not know what they should work on, and anyone else assigning tasks wouldn’t know who to assign to which task. I would love to be able to go in and get the staff working but people don’t all show up at the same time so I would be there a minimum of two hours if I could even leave then.
If I had enough projects lined up appropriately for all the staff, I would feel more comfortable about not going in, but as it is I feel like I am making up work to keep people busy. I have told this to my boss, and he will give me a project at a time to hand out but it may not be the skill level that’s appropriate for the employee who needs it. I also feel like I need to be the buffer between the employees and my boss due to his fragile emotional state. My husband thinks that if I am not there, and the staff have to go to my boss to get work, it will help my boss realize he has to take the time to explain the work to me so I can hand it out appropriately. My concern is that my boss will just think I have abandoned him (he has said this before) and it will tarnish any chance I might have of getting a raise (a manager has confided in me that she is doing what she can to help make that happen based on my hours & performance).
So I feel I am stuck. Either I disappoint my husband by not standing up for myself to take an additional day off to have two days off this week, or I disappoint my boss and possibly hurt my chances of getting a raise soon, which we desparately need. I haven’t told my husband about the possibility of the raise because the manager who told me made me promise not to tell him or anyone and I want to keep my word to her.
So, this is basically a vent but if anyone has any advice or words of wisdom to help me figure out what the best choice would be, I could really use it right now. I totally see my husbands side of things, but I just don’t agree that not going in is the right choice. Any thoughts?