Post # 1
My fiance and I have been together for almost 5 years and we are both in college right now working on our Bachelor degrees. Our wedding is in June of 2011. However, after we get married, I will still have one semester of college left (my unpaid practicum) and my fiance will have 4 more years (vet school. He’s already been accepted.) We’ve saved up money, will both have small part-time jobs (his likely only in the summer due to the rigorous vet school schedule,) and are having a modest priced wedding. We’ve also met with financial advisors to discuss our situation to see what expenses to expect and to get other opinions on if it’s reasonable to both not have jobs for a semester. I’ve also talked to my college advisor about the liklihood of finding a job (which she thinks won’t be a problem due to my major, my practicum, and the multiple agencies I’ve volunteered at) and in the event I couldn’t find a job using my degree, I could always pick up my hours where I work now (which is closely related to my degree and I would be happy continuing.) We have good reason to believe this should work out but I can’t help but get really nervous about it.
Is anyone else going to be married and both in school/with only part time or no jobs for a few months? Does anyone know someone else who’s been in this situation? I’d just like to hear others stories that can relate to my situation so I can know what to expect and hopefully stop worrying so much!
Post # 3
It sounds like you are being careful. I would make sure to have more in savings than you think you are going to need in case you can’t find a job in your field and have to work part time not making as much money.
Post # 4
My FH and I are currently going through this, We aren’t getting married til October of 2011 but I’m still seeking employment (and this job market sucks in western PA, you can’t get a job unless you’re a nurse!) and I just graduated from college in mid-April. We have enough money to get by, buy groceries, and we put x amount of money into the savings account out of every paycheck towards the wedding. It was rough up until this point because we were saving up for our security deposit, but now that that is out of the way all money in the savings account is going to the wedding or emergencies, considering I don’t have health insurance. I was really stressing the past month because of the money and was having like, a wedding breakdown, because we had no money for deposits at all, but now that are security deposit is paid off I feel alot more hopeful. We also aren’t getting any help for the wedding, FH’s Dad is paying for alcohol but we are paying for everything else.
Post # 5
Next month, we’re moving to a city with no jobs, no school, nada. We have a bit of savings (about 3 months worth) though, so we’re not too worried. Why are we moving? My FH is on the waitlist for the law school there, and this school has the tendency to wait until the week before classes to accept people. He really wants to go to this school though, and if he doesn’t get accepted this year, he’ll go next year. We’re both applying for jobs like mad, but there’s the distinct possibility that we’ll end up in retail for a bit. It sucks, but you do what you have to do! We’re just lucky that my parents are covering the wedding (we waited until after college graduation so they would)!
Post # 6
We are quitting our jobs here in Tokyo after 3 years to move back to America (well, for my hubby it will be his first time living there- he’s English!). We’ll be jobless when we arrive in America and we are going to live at my parents house in L.A. for a month while we try to find an apartment + jobs in San Francisco. Meanwhile we’ll be having our ceremony in my parent’s backyard. Of course, we have been saving up because we are willingly and knowingly going to be unemployed for X amount of months- we probably have enough savings to last us till at least December. And my parent’s have generously footed the bill for our backyard wedding.
I am really scared because it sounds like it’s still really rough there in America- a few of my friends that graduated with teaching credentials last year still haven’t found anything steady and my friends that just graduated with Master’s degrees say things are tough, like a million applications for a few positions. We have cushy jobs here in Japan but nothing we are doing will translate to a position in America so we’ve basically gotta start from scratch.
I am curious as to how people have managed too, but OP it sounds like you are taking the right steps. I guess we just have to save, save, save and apply, apply, apply!
Post # 7
You guys sounds like you are just starting out in life together and are trying to be financially responsible. I think you’ll be fine.
My FH and I are a little older and I already had a fairly established career and money saved. We both decided to take a year off and work and travel overseas before we missed the opportunity. We planned our wedding entirely abroad. We are getting married this summer and now we are back home and are living between his parents and my parent’s homes. It’s hard being 30 and living with mom again–especially when all our friends have houses and pretty stable lives. But I really wouldn’t give it up for all the amazing experiences we had!
We are picking up part-time work but mostly living off (and paying for the wedding) out of savings. We can’t afford to buy a house after this–but we are looking for work anywhere the US and internationally, so hopefully we can have something lined up after the wedding. I understand the stressful feeling though.. especially since wedding costs seem extravagant and you are just trying to get by and get your life in order.
Post # 8
Thanks for all the advice and support everyone! =)
Post # 9
I wish I had taken the steps that you have. I just finished by last semester of school (also an unpaid full time working semester) and I have moved across the country to be with the Fiance. He makes enough money to support us both financially but I feel guilty about not having a job. I have been applying to every job opening that I can find but nothing has worked out yet. Luckily, it has only been a few weeks so far.
The important thing to remember is that as long as you are being careful, saving money and planning for the future, everything will work out.