(Closed) Job/Relocation Anxiety! Need advice

posted 9 years ago in Career
Post # 3
Member
908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

If I were you I would stick with your current jobs until your Fiance gets a new job.  Then, when you know where you’ll be living, start applying there.  Also, check out jobs in the cities where you may be moving that way you will have an idea of what is out there before you start applying.

Moving is expensive and you’ll need that extra income.

Post # 4
Member
1011 posts
Bumble bee

Could you find a different second job?

Post # 6
Member
1580 posts
Bumble bee

This actually happened to me! You and your finace need to sit down and figure out who will be the one to look for a new job, which will decide where you will relocate to. When I was looking for a new job (because I hated my old one), our initial plan was that my fiance (then BF) has a profession that can more easily be relocated, so he would move with me to wherever I got my job. However, my job search was taking a while and during that time my fiance decided he was going to apply for a new job too because he decided he wasn’t totally satisfied either. As luck woud have it, we both got offers for jobs that were too good to turn down. The offers literally came in days apart! So I moved 900 miles away for my new job. He took the new job he was offered. It was a huge strain, but we were lucky to be in the position to fly to see each other at least once a month. I moved back a year later with another new job and we got engaged the night I moved back. So all’s well that ends well, and looking back I wouldn’t change it, but I’d never do it again. I think you need to look for one job first, and then the other once you know the location. Job searching and relocating needs to be a team effort 🙂

Post # 7
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would wait too.  Your Fiance needs to go where the jobs are so he might have to move.  We had to move across the country this summer for my husband to get a good job when he graduated.  I was thinking about leaving my job before but I waited because I knew that the economy was bad and he might not find a job.  I hope he can find something that doesn’t require moving but moving is a new experience and you might end up liking the place you end up!

Post # 8
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1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I am in EXACTLY the same situation. Fiance is finishing school and looking for a job, I am working in a job I hate and ready to find a good one. I am putting feelers out for job opps, but mostly just waiting to see what pans out with Fiance. Since he will be making more money than I, it’s more important for him to find a job and me to follow than the other way around.

If you know where he is looking for jobs, I’d compile lists of job openings in those cities so as soon as you know where you are going to end up you have a list of jobs all ready to apply to! Good luck! I know how frustrating it is to be in this situation!

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