Post # 1
So a little backstory- Fiance has been with his company for almost 4 years, but with the economy they’re kind of screwing them over, and he’s as high as he can feasibly go. He’s very unhappy. I lost my job (it’s ok- I hated it!) in March, and then was unemployed until June when I found my current job. However it pays a lot less so I work at a mall job some nights and weekends. I’m unhappy with my pay and I feel that working too much takes a toll on our relationship and my health!
So Fiance is looking at jobs, Indianapolis where we live but also Bloomington IN (south of us- where he went to school, IU) and Chicago. There’s also one potential one in Michigan. He makes more money so we figured he’d get a job one of these places, and then I’d get a job there too.
The only issue is my current situation. I would love to get a new job! My job is myself and 2 other guys. The CEO is kind of bonkers and his work style drives us crazy. The other guy (and one guy who went off on his own- and is making TONS more!) keep encouraging me to find another job, saying I could make more money and be a ton happier. It seems my coworker is just here while he gets his CFRE, I’m sure he’ll find a better position after he gets it. They said they’d be references for me and I know they’d be great. If I could quit my 2nd job (can’t now for $$ reasons) we’d be so much happier- Fiance begs me to quit but we can’t afford me doing so.
Normally I’d be job searching like crazy, but I’m worried that if I get a job here in Indianapolis, and then Fiance will find one in one of the other cities. He especially has been itching to get out of Indianapolis. I would hate to ruin that opportunity. I could also apply to jobs in those cities, but that makes it harder, since my salary will definitely be lower than his and relocating on my salary would be VERY risky.
What should I do? What would you do?
Post # 3
If I were you I would stick with your current jobs until your Fiance gets a new job. Then, when you know where you’ll be living, start applying there. Also, check out jobs in the cities where you may be moving that way you will have an idea of what is out there before you start applying.
Moving is expensive and you’ll need that extra income.
Post # 4
Could you find a different second job?
Post # 5
It’s mostly just the time… working 40 hours then at least another 10 hours on top of that… missing out on stuff with Fiance because I have to work… that’s getting really tough now close to the wedding (4 months!)
Post # 6
This actually happened to me! You and your finace need to sit down and figure out who will be the one to look for a new job, which will decide where you will relocate to. When I was looking for a new job (because I hated my old one), our initial plan was that my fiance (then BF) has a profession that can more easily be relocated, so he would move with me to wherever I got my job. However, my job search was taking a while and during that time my fiance decided he was going to apply for a new job too because he decided he wasn’t totally satisfied either. As luck woud have it, we both got offers for jobs that were too good to turn down. The offers literally came in days apart! So I moved 900 miles away for my new job. He took the new job he was offered. It was a huge strain, but we were lucky to be in the position to fly to see each other at least once a month. I moved back a year later with another new job and we got engaged the night I moved back. So all’s well that ends well, and looking back I wouldn’t change it, but I’d never do it again. I think you need to look for one job first, and then the other once you know the location. Job searching and relocating needs to be a team effort 🙂
Post # 7
I would wait too. Your Fiance needs to go where the jobs are so he might have to move. We had to move across the country this summer for my husband to get a good job when he graduated. I was thinking about leaving my job before but I waited because I knew that the economy was bad and he might not find a job. I hope he can find something that doesn’t require moving but moving is a new experience and you might end up liking the place you end up!
Post # 8
I am in EXACTLY the same situation. Fiance is finishing school and looking for a job, I am working in a job I hate and ready to find a good one. I am putting feelers out for job opps, but mostly just waiting to see what pans out with Fiance. Since he will be making more money than I, it’s more important for him to find a job and me to follow than the other way around.
If you know where he is looking for jobs, I’d compile lists of job openings in those cities so as soon as you know where you are going to end up you have a list of jobs all ready to apply to! Good luck! I know how frustrating it is to be in this situation!