Post # 1
So, Fiance and I have lots of family and kids in our lives. He has two goddaughters that he would like to see in the wedding. I have been a nanny since high school. I have a girl cousin, and 5 girls that I have nannied/babysit for FOREVER that are non-negotiable, they have to be in the wedding. Fiance has a 4 year old brother and I have a 5 year old boy cousin that we want to be in the wedding.
So far, we have jobs for the boys. FI’s brother is going to be the ring bearer and my little cousin is going to carry a sign that says “here comes the bride”
Five of the girls will be 7 and under, so they will be the flower girls. The other three girls range from 9-11. My question is- what jobs can I give them that will make them feel very important and meaningful since they aren’t young enough to be flower girls?
I know lots of people don’t agree with having this many kids and I feel like I may get some comments on that, but honestly this is us! I have always worked with children and plan on working with children for my career and we just have big families and love kids. It won’t stress me out if a child doesn’t walk down the aisle properly or something.
So anyway, I’m just looking for ideas for the three older girls.
ETA: Also I would love to hear if anyone has an idea of a name i can collectively give all of them (“brides helpers, bride’s princesses” or something like that so that it doesn’t feel like “the flower girls” and “the others”)
Post # 3
Can they do a reading of some kind?
Post # 5
@cora_123: we have lots of older family and friends that will probably take over the readings
Post # 6
They can be guest book assistants, asking each guest to kindly sign your book. They can ring the bell at the church, if allowed. They can pass out programs at the church or favors at the reception. Hope this helps a little. I think its wonderful that you and your Fiance are being so gracious to include the little ones in your lives!
Post # 7
@whoa_its_ash: i did consider that, but i already have 6 bridesmaids. 3 sisters, Future Sister-In-Law, and 2 friends.
i’m glad to hear all the suggestions! not trying to be picky but i don’t think we would have enough room in our wedding party for three more girls!
Post # 8
i was going to suggest guest book attendant and passing out programs (if you’re doing them) also.
Post # 9
@85kym13: those are all great ideas! and thank you!
Post # 10
@lilchicana: that’s a good idea! im not sure if we will have programs but that would be a good job if we do!
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I don’t think people would be happy to be asked to do these jobs. Especially young girls.
Post # 12
@FutureMrsT1221: we have 4 older boys we needed to give jobs. The 2 bothers (12 and 10) will hand out programs, and the other 2 boys (13 and 11) will be ushers and help seat guests. I wanted them all in the wedding so we made it work:)
Post # 13
@FutureMrsT1221: they could always be flower girls too. I was a flower girl when I was 10 when my grandpa remarried (all of the grandchildren 10 and under were flower girls…there were 4 of us who were 10). And I plan on having my cousin as a flower girl, and she’ll be 9! I know it’s a little older, but she’s my favorite kid in the world and I’ve imagined having her as my flower girl ever since she was about 2 and developed a personality lol
Post # 14
@whoa_its_ash: I agree. I don’t think 9-11 year old girls would want to ask adults (mostly strangers) to sign a guest book. Handing out programs or favours might be ok.
Can I say, though, that 9-11 is not to old to be a flower girl. Or they can wear a different dress (in the bridesmaids’ colours) and be junior bridesmaids.
Post # 15
@FutureMrsT1221: I LOVE how many kids are going to be in your wedding!
I have a 12 year old sister that was too young to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man but too old to be a flower girl! So she escorted my mother down the aisle!
She LOVED the attention and responsibility! So your older girls could escort people?
Post # 16
@FutureMrsT1221: I haven’t seen them in a while, but when I was little, we had rice girls. Generally, they were that 8-13 age range where you aren’t old enough to be a bridesmaid but too old to be a flower girl. They held the basket of rice bags to be tossed at the end of the wedding. They would pass out the bags before and after the ceremony and process with the wedding party and sat with the flower girls. My older sister was always the rice girl and I remember really wanting to be one, but by the time I was old enough, no one was getting married. For yours, maybe not rice, but whatever you plan on using; bubbles, ribbons, confetti. They also start the toss to cue the others.