- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
Well hello ladies! I am back from the wedding & honeymoon and thought I would share a few things about my experiences. I have been an active WB member for over a year now, and have learned countless pieces of advice from the ladies that came before, and hopefully I can do the same for those after me.
First off, a little background: We had a DIY "backyard" destination (aunt & uncles backyard) tented wedding with 55 guests in attendence.
I have to tell you this wedding was probably the hardest thing I ever planned in my life- and we didnt even have a traditional wedding timeline. (We skipped the parent dances, the bouquet/garter toss, toasts, etc.) I went up on the Wednesday before my Saturday wedding and things were still forgotten/not finished.
I know everyone says this, but I didnt listen. HIRE A DOC! Even if its just a friend or family member or whatever that volunteers- you need one! Once your guests start arriving, the last thing you’ll want to be doing is hanging paper lanterns, stringing lights, and leaf blowing. Because I didnt designate someone to make sure everything got done with a detailed to-do list, things simply didnt get done. I didnt notice until the wedding had already started and by then it was too late (and I honestly didnt care anymore).
No one ever put out a guestbook/gift table so gifts and cards were left all over the place, the guestbook was NEVER signed, a box of vases never even got used, the take away boxes were put out after most everyone had already left, and I misplaced my ipod with my playlists on it (for the first hour of the reception).
Another biggie was the fact that I hadnt written out my checks for the vendors until the morning of the wedding. Had I planned ahead and wrote them out before I left home, I would have noticed that I only had 2 checks left in my checkbook. I needed to write 4!! After having my friend drive to the bank and grocery store to get cash back for me to pay these hard working people, I had to tear open a few wedding cards early to make sure everyone got paid!!! Hilarious now, but definitely nerve-wrecking that day!!!
Also make sure to let your family members know that you DO NOT what to hear anything negative being said about your wedding. They can keep it to themselves. My mother for some ungodly reason thought it would be appropriate to tell me that people were complaining about how much it was costing them to be there. Asking why I couldnt of just had something close to home. Like I needed to worry about that a week before my wedding?? (For the record I had already taken that into consideration which is why I reserved rooms between 70-125/night that came with free hot breakfast, and I fed them friday night, and ALL DAY saturday.) Yes it was a 6 hour drive if not more for everyone (including us) but the atmosphere could not have been bought close to home. (I’ll post pictures soon)!
After all that- I can still honestly say that my wedding was one of the happiest days of my life so far. My husband(!) was blown away by all the thought and effort I put into the day. EVeryone thought the location was "magical" "majestic", and most everyone commented on how it was the best wedding they have ever been to. Even my mother who hated my ideas loved how everything turned out.
Everyone had a blast filling out the crossword puzzles I made (Thanks Mrs. Cheese!!) We decided to do a customized ceremony that allowed people to speak-which everyone raved about, and everyone loved the comfort food, the sno-kone machine, and the laid back attitude. (We changed out of our wedding garb shortly after the formal portraits to get comfy- I wore jeans & a rhinestone t-shirt that said "wifey"-which is now my new nickname-LOL)
so ladies- stick to your guns, follow through on your vision, and make damn sure that your wedding reflects you & your fiance- because that will be what everyone talks about for weeks afterwards.