(Closed) Joining the waiting bees :/

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Does he know you want to be engaged before you move in? Guys are pretty oblivious to things like that. Make sure he knows, and maybe he’ll get on the ball! Isn’t it funny that when you know, you know? I knew my SO was the one many years ago, and it’s FINALLY happening soon! I’m so excited. I’m 100% sure we’ll be engaged before the summer!

Post # 4
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823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Hello and welcome to the Wedding Bee! I was in some similar shoes this time last year. My boyfriend and I started dating in October 2010 and in a very short period of time, I was pretty sure he was “the one.” We moved in together rather quickly and both talked about wanting to get married but that we wanted to wait at least a year before becoming engaged. Well, now it’s been nearly a year and a half and I am patiently waiting for a proposal. ๐Ÿ™‚ I know he has a ring somewhere, so hopefully it won’t be too much longer! 

Anyway, I think you would be okay moving in before getting engaged, especially if you’ve already talked about marriage and have an inkling that he might be proposing in the near future. But definitely, being open about your expectations is always a good thing with men, who can be rather dense, as we all know! 

Post # 6
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1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m in a very similar situation, though I’m a few months off (we’re moving in together in June, but our 1 year anniversary isn’t until October).  We’ve discussed marriage and our future, but when it comes to setting down a solid date he just says that he’s “a guy and needs to take his own time”, whatever that means ๐Ÿ˜›  From other things his hinted at I’m thinking the 1 year mark will be it.  I’ve got a bit more time so I’m holding off on having any big talks.

But like others have said, you may want to spell things out for him so he knows what timeline you’re thinking about.  There’s been so many times I’ve though I made something very obvious to my SO by dropping hints, but he was clueless.  Men really don’t do subtle well.

Post # 7
Member
716 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

It’s so nice to see other less-than-a-year waiters here! I’m in a similar boat. Boyfriend or Best Friend and I just moved in together and have been dating 7 months. We’ve talked marriage seriously but are waiting till closer to a year. He’s meeting my parents this weekend, gulp, which I see as the last step until I’m ready to say “YES!” Eep!

Post # 8
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663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

@cali_cat:  Like you said, men can be dense. Id say something like, “I really want to live with you, but the idea of living with a boyfriend kinda scares me. I would be so nice if I could move in with my fiance! I would be tons more relaxed and happier” Something non-pushy but really clear. And sounds like he’d take that sort or prooding just fine ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
Member
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My Fiance and I started dating 11/11/11, and we knew it was meant to be shortly after.  Initially he said he wanted to wait at least a year before proposing.  By Christmas he shortened his time frame to 6 months and then 2/15/12 he proposed just barely 3 months into our relationship.  I couldn’t be happier!  But just because your guy has a limit in his mind of when he wants to do it doesn’t mean that he’s actually going to stick to it!

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