(Closed) Joint account before the wedding?

posted 11 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’ve had a joint account for a long time…since we’ve been living together (so four years)  We pay the rent and bills with it, and now we pay wedding expenses using that account. (we keep our wedding money in a joint ING savings account and then transfer it)

I was a little worried at first, because Fiance was EXTREMELY irresponsible with money.  But just putting in your rent/bills money is a good way to start.  That way there’s no “extra” money in there to be used for anything else.

After the wedding we’ll put most of our money in the joint account and then keep some spending $ in our own accounts.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We got our joint account a year after moving in together and it’s got it’s pro’s and con’s. Overwhelmingly- PRO- we can combine funds so when we’re paid at different times it’s not like we can’t pay a bill, or I have to write a check. Also there’s no awkward “who’s paying?” when we’re out. The only con is that I am constantly nervous with big purchases like, what if he’s buying something! We could overdraft! But it’s been a year and that hasn’t happened. Just kind of silly. Also con- I can’t buy things in secret for him! Another con/pro he knows exactly what I get like, what I eat for lucnh, or how much a manicure is. But it’s also pro because that helps me be smarter about spending!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I hear ya!  It is a scary thing, especially when you’ve been burned before.  So funny, sounds like hotchildinthecity is talkin about my relationship too!  We have horrible money issues, my Fiance is a lil bit irresponsible BUT we did a joint account and so far its worked out really well.  See, he’s good about putting money into the account and I’ll pay the bills.  If it were up to him to pay the bills though, it wouldn’t happen.  I suggest doing this though because soon enough you’ll be a team and you want to know how it is to work together.  The money I’ve been saving for the wedding is staying in my personal account though, until he’s able to match it.  I’ll never want to put more than he does, ya know?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

we just got a joint account because we bought a house, plus we’re sick of always figuring out who owes who what. we’re actually getting both of our pays deposited into this joint account, but we’re making up a budget, and then whatever is left over is getting split evenly (we make similar salaries so it’s easier) and deposited into our own personal accounts.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We don’t have one, and I’m not sure when we’re doing it. I’d be OK with it, but he’s not so keen. He’s more irresponsible (not completely, but more) with money than I am, so maybe he’s embarrassed? Don’t know.

We’ve been living together for the past two years without any joint account, and will probably continue this way until much closer to the wedding (next summer). I’m not saying it’s the best way, but it’s keeping the money issues at bay for now

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We have a joint savings account that we are using to put our wedding money in and pay for wedding/honeymoon expenses. Once we get married I will quit my bank to join his account and we will be totally merged. It is a BIG step, but at the same time it’s nothing compared to pledging faithfulness to another person as long as we both shall live!

Take it as slow as you need to.. only put in as much as you need to, and agree to discuss all transactions before they take place. Good luck!

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had a joint account for about 2 years before we got married.  We were already engaged and we owned a house together so it made a lot of sense.  We don’t have individual accounts but we do have individual credit cards that we can put our indulgences on.  We make sure that we discuss all larger purchases with eachother before making them so that we know we have enough money.  We also have money meetings every so often to check on how we are doing and our investments.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We’ve had a joint account for years and just recently I put him on my credit card account so we just have one then.

We don’t have the overdraft issues since we rarely use our debit cards.  I’m also the only one that cuts checks so he just calls to tell me he’s writing one (like one ever 6 months) or asks me to write one.  Works out fine.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We have joint accounts for bills like the mortgage and savings and then we keep our separate accounts. I think our system works out really nice since he makes A LOT more than me it wouldn’t be fair if I had to pay 50% of all the cost of the bills make sense? So instead we each put in a set percentage of our paychecks in to the joint accounts for savings and bills. The rest we put in our separate accounts and use them as we want. That way if I want to buy him something for his birthday I would buy it out of my own account.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

This is too funny becuase I’ve just been thinking about this today. We are getting ready to close on our first home in 2 weeks or so. We still have not decided how we’re going to handle this. At first I thought it would be easiest just to have all our money deposited to one account and then put some in savings when there is some left over. However; Fiance makes a little more than I do so I don’t want him to think he can’t spend his money they way he wants it. We talked about having a set amount that he would write me every month to pay for his half of the bills and then we each have a seperate account. I just worry that if I don’t have a little control over the money that he will have troubles having his amount at the end of the month. He tends to spend without thinking sometimes. (god love him) It just makes me nervous. Not sure which to do either. So basically I’m waiting to get the responses to this as well!!!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

We opened our joint account when we moved in together. Since I’m in school and he is JUST starting his practice, we’re really not much above the poverty line (ouch) so we really couldn’t even afford to keep much separately if we wanted to, nor could anyone really steal anything from each other ;). It was an easy decision for us. But it STILL freaked me out–I’ve always been pretty independent, especially financially, and emotionally it was a hard step. I feel fine about it now, though. 🙂 Someday I know I’ll contribute at least as much as he does!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

we just opened our joint account a couple weeks ago. We’re doing the same thing – putting in just rent and bills. It was definitely a moment where it all felt “real.” But it was pretty exciting too.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We turned to joint accounts in February (after living together for a couple of years).  He was more afraid than I was, which is funny because I am better at saving money!  It has turned out really well.  Now I don’t have to nag him to pay the bills on time (I just pay them all), and I can make sure we’re covered for all of our expenses.  Honestly, it was way less of a big step than everyone else said it would be.  We opted not to have our own personal accounts, we just have 2 chequing and 1 savings, all in our names.  Since someone usually has to be the “primary” on an account though I would suggest either getting two accounts together or keeping your own extra accounts.  If you apply for certain things you apparently need a primary account in your name (so says the bank lady!).

I think the only tough part is that we are different spenders; he wants to buy what he wants even if he doesn’t have the money for it (I am the opposite).  It’s hard not to feel like I am nagging him in a motherly way sometimes about spending money we don’t have, but it’s not something we ‘fight’ about.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We didn’t open our joint account until right after we were married, but it was more out of laziness than not wanting to before.  We were going to open one when we bought our house together (7 months pre wedding) but I didn’t want to open another account which I’d have to change my name on after the wedding.  Why bother??  haha.  However, if we had a longer engagement, I wouldn’t hesitate to open a joint account before marriage, especially if you have a responsible SO and set down some ground rules about what it’s used for.  We use our joint account for all our joint household bills, our cell phones, going out to dinner/movies/whatever together, gas for our cars, groceries.  We differ slightly in that he wants to use his to pay his student loans, where I think we should pay them out of our own seperate accounts.  I use my seperate account for my student loans, gifts, going out with my friends, shopping. 

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