Post # 1
So my Fiance and I are both over the clubbing/bar scene. We are much more the house party type of people. Most of the people we would invite for our parties are all in couples so we thought of renting a huge house/cottage on air bnb and have a party where everyone can stay the night and do put luck style or a BBQ and everyone brings something for alcohol and we would supply the wine since we make it. And play awesome party games. My Fiance loves the idea also and so far my bridesmaids are on board and think it is a great idea. Has anyone else done something like this? How was it? Any ideas or advice for a super awesome night?
Post # 2
I personally wouldnt do it – the whole idea of a bachelorette party is to get the girls together for a bit of a party/fun without the husbands/partners for once. And its very likely likely his friends are going to think youve pushed him into doing it this way (even though you havent).
Post # 3
I’ve never liked the idea of having a joint party because I want some alone time with my girls and would want my guy to have his alone time with his boys. Like the above poster mentioned, it’s possible that his friends may think you pushed him into this even though it doesn’t seem to be the case. But anyways, since it seems like ya’ll are inviting mainly couples…maybe yall can do a private party at Painting with A Twist…or enroll in a private cooking class and your invite guests.
Post # 4
I disagree with the other posters. I think if it feels really good to both of you, you should do it! Who cares if a couple of his friends (rather ignorantly) think you pushed him into it? Your guy sounds decent enough to set them straight if they were ever to say anything out loud. The one thing I hate about bachelor/bachelorette parties is that it decides your social circle based on your gender. Hello 50’s.
I think the idea of a big Airbnb sounds great. Will everyone be pitching in for the rental cost? I’d suggest, if at all possible, to find a place with some built in entertainment. A hot tub, pool/ping pong table, or perhaps a lakehouse next to a lake you guys can swim in. It’ll make the whole party a lot more fun!
Post # 5
To be honest, my BF and I are really low-key, not big party people and our group of friends are all the same people…this is probably something we’d end up doing. I think it sounds like a ton of fun, I wouldn’t judge someone for how they throw a party. If you guys are both on the same page, do it!!
Post # 6
I love this idea! I might steal it 🙂
Post # 7
I wouldn’t do it , even if you are laid back ect same personality I think a bachelorette party should be like a girls night. You don’t need to do anything elaborate maybe seperate cabin rental for a night with some activities to do or find something more appealing to you but don’t have a joint party it’s suppose to be about you and you’re girl friends.
Post # 8
I definately get what you’re saying, and i agree, the poster should do that if thats what her and her fi enjoy the most. I guess I just appreciated the excuse to have a silly girls night, but you dont have to wait for a bachelorette to do that.
Post # 9
my husband’s friend did something like this. They did go their seperate ways during the day – the guys went deep sea fishing. No idea what the girls did as I hadn’t met them yet, so I hung out with my future (at the time) in-laws. At the end of the day they all got together for a fish taco bbq and that was great. I think that kind of party is way better than running around town getting wasted for a last hurrah. Enjoy!
ETA: I can’t believe so many people are saying you should follow the stereotypical party and anything else is a waste, boring, not ‘right’. Nonsense! Shake things up and maybe weddings won’t be so stuffy and rigid in future. Do what you love and your memories will be better anyway.
Post # 10
This is what we are doing =)
Post # 11
I LOVE IT. My best friend did it for her wedding (everyone went to Dave and Busters- which was better than it sounds) and it was actually a total blast. As a member of the bridal party it was also really nice to meet the groomsmen before the wedding day!
Post # 12
If these are all people you hang out with regularly together then I think it sounds like fun. I don’t know that I’d want to share a cabin with a bunch of strangers.
Post # 13
Thanks for all the responses and feedback. Ya this is not something I pushed my Fiance into at all. His best man, who is his brother told him he really isn’t into planning a bachelor party and my Fiance even said he could do without one at all, so I mentioned this as an idea so that everyone can hang out together as couples. We thought of going our separate ways during the day, he can go golfing with his guy friends, since that’s what he said he wanted to do and me and my girls can go to the spa and then all meet up later for the big party. And yes we will most likely split the cost of the rental since most of them are super expensive. We have found some nice ones on the side of a lake and that have a hot tub and pool table and sound system. All things to make a great party. And like some people have mentioned, it gives a chance for the people in the wedding party to get to know each other much better before the wedding which is fun. And as someone else mentioned also, it gives me the chance to hang out with some of my guy cousins who I’m really close to, which is cool. I’m glad to see I’m not the only one who is doing something like this!
Post # 14
I believe when you do a joint party like that it’s referred to as a “Jack & Jill” party. I’m super over bars as well. My Maid/Matron of Honor asked if I wanted a Bachelorette party…..I told her it was not a necessity but that if she wanted to do something that I’d be into a girls night at a local hotel or cabin, but that’s it. My fiance will just celebrate at home with his best friend as far as I know.