(Closed) Joint Bachelor/Bachelorette party?!

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I personally wouldnt do it – the whole idea of a bachelorette party is to get the girls together for a bit of a party/fun without the husbands/partners for once. And its very likely likely his friends are going to think youve pushed him into doing it this way (even though you havent).

 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’ve never liked the idea of having a joint party because I want some alone time with my girls and would want my guy to have his alone time with his boys. Like the above poster  mentioned, it’s possible that his friends may think you pushed him into this even though it doesn’t seem to be the case. But anyways, since it seems like ya’ll are inviting mainly couples…maybe yall can do a private party at Painting with A Twist…or enroll in a private cooking class and your invite guests.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I disagree with the other posters. I think if it feels really good to both of you, you should do it! Who cares if a couple of his friends (rather ignorantly) think you pushed him into it? Your guy sounds decent enough to set them straight if they were ever to say anything out loud. The one thing I hate about bachelor/bachelorette parties is that it decides your social circle based on your gender. Hello 50’s.  

I think the idea of a big Airbnb sounds great. Will everyone be pitching in for the rental cost? I’d suggest, if at all possible, to find a place with some built in entertainment. A hot tub, pool/ping pong table, or perhaps a lakehouse next to a lake you guys can swim in. It’ll make the whole party a lot more fun!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

To be honest, my BF and I are really low-key, not big party people and our group of friends are all the same people…this is probably something we’d end up doing. I think it sounds like a ton of fun, I wouldn’t judge someone for how they throw a party. If you guys are both on the same page, do it!!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I love this idea! I might steal it 🙂 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I wouldn’t do it , even if you are laid back ect same personality I think a bachelorette party should be like a girls night. You don’t need to do anything elaborate maybe seperate cabin rental for a night with some activities to do or find something more appealing to you but don’t have a joint party it’s suppose to be about you and you’re girl friends. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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shortbread654 :  I definately get what you’re saying, and i agree, the poster should do that if thats what her and her fi enjoy the most. I guess I just appreciated the excuse to have a silly girls night, but you dont have to wait for a bachelorette to do that. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

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katiefitness92 :  my husband’s friend did something like this.  They did go their seperate ways during the day – the guys went deep sea fishing.  No idea what the girls did as I hadn’t met them yet, so I hung out with my future (at the time) in-laws.  At the end of the day they all got together for a fish taco bbq and that was great.  I think that kind of party is way better than running around town getting wasted for a last hurrah.  Enjoy!

ETA: I can’t believe so many people are saying you should follow the stereotypical party and anything else is a waste, boring, not ‘right’.  Nonsense!  Shake things up and maybe weddings won’t be so stuffy and rigid in future.  Do what you love and your memories will be better anyway.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

This is what we are doing =)

 

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I LOVE IT. My best friend did it for her wedding (everyone went to Dave and Busters- which was better than it sounds) and it was actually a total blast. As a member of the bridal party it was also really nice to meet the groomsmen before the wedding day!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

If these are all people you hang out with regularly together then I think it sounds like fun. I don’t know that I’d want to share a cabin with a bunch of strangers.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I believe when you do a joint party like that it’s referred to as a “Jack & Jill” party. I’m super over bars as well. My Maid/Matron of Honor asked if I wanted a Bachelorette party…..I told her it was not a necessity but that if she wanted to do something that I’d be into a girls night at a local hotel or cabin, but that’s it. My fiance will just celebrate at home with his best friend as far as I know.

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