(Closed) Joint Bank Account from Parents to Husband

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow, why would she be upset that she doesn’t get a free ride from her parents anymore now that she’s married?  That doesn’t make much sense to me.

Post # 4
Member
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

That made me chuckle. I seriously have nothing for you.  I work with two people like that.  Both of whom keep a running tab on how much their parents spent on their siblings and expect the same thing.  (including 30k for rehab).  I just shake my head most of the time and say nothing.

Post # 6
Member
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You can have a joint bank account with anyone, my sister has one with my parents because they keep track of her money through college by transferring an allowance (which I think is ridiculous, it’s her money theyre “allowing her” she should learn to use it on her own). But I don’t even think you should concern yourself with this. She’s being immature, just tell her to get the joint with her husband and be thankful she’s got money at all.

Post # 7
Member
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i wouldn’t say anything about it. let her vent if she wants to, but this is a situation where i would just smile and nod because it’s pretty ridiculous.

Post # 8
Member
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

WOW…LOL!  I think I need to go slap myself before I post anything…

Tell her its time that she grows up a little and she will live.

Post # 9
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@Pupperoni: My husband and I combined our finances before we got married because we owned a home together.  I was never on a joint account with my parents though.

Post # 10
Member
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

WOW. Must be nice, but she is being so ridonk. I don’t think the shared bank account with her Fiance before marriage is an issue, still being on your parent’s is.

Post # 11
Member
5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I was on a joint account with my mama when I graduated from HS because I was 17. After that I was on my on until a few weeks before the wedding when Hubby and I merged accounts.

I would point out to your friend that most people’s parents don’t provide for them when they are grown and on their own.

Post # 12
Member
923 posts
Busy bee

Wow… I can’t help you because all I would want to do is say something rude like “you’re a grown woman and you’ve had a joint account with your parents all this time? It’s time to start learning about money take control of it for yourself. You don’t need other people to do that for you. Welcome to the grown up world.”

Post # 13
Member
7408 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

oh wow.  I am speecheless.

Post # 14
Member
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Um, wow. Honestly, I’m connected to my parents bank account. They have the money for it and don’t want me to start my career with any loans, that is why they paid for my college. However, they always told me that when I graduate and/or when I get married I’ll be “cut off”. That seems more than reasonable to me.

Tell your friend that she is starting a new family and does not need to be connected to her parent’s account. If she takes their money, then they have control over her to tell her what she can and can’t do. Nobody wants to be treated like a baby when they’re married. Tell her to let it go and if they REALLY need help, to ask for it sometimes… but not to be connected to the account.

Post # 15
Member
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I just choked on my drink….seriously? Do we have a friend in common? My co-worker “friend” was talking about this very thing earlier. How ridiculous that her parents don’t want to fund her entire life…. (read: sarcasm).

I honestly don’t get it. But, like PPs have said, just nod and smile? I just went “ohh, okay..”

Post # 16
Member
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

So so so sad that we raise children like this. 

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