(Closed) Joint bank accounts –> proposal?

posted 3 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Worker bee

For me, before marriage, no way!

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

anon1227 :  Nope thats not what he meant and unless you specifically asked him to elaborate on what he did mean you shouldn’t be assuming. 

If you want to get engaged your response to his joint bank account suggestion should have been this

You: I am happy to get a joint bank account when we get married as that is something married couples do. When there is a proposal on the table we can revisit this. Speaking of a proposal, I would like to be engaged soon, where are we with that? 

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

I wouldn’t open a shared bank account with someone I wasn’t married to. FH and I have been living together for 4 years and we still don’t have a shared account for bills/rent. Our current system works just fine. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

If you want to know if you’re taking steps toward getting married, ask him.  Don’t try to discern his feelings through unrelated issues.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

Uhhhh….this doesn’t sound like any step at all?!!?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

anon1227 :  people aren’t saying don’t live with your partner or sleep with your partner or share bills with your partner before marriage. They’re saying a joint account doesn’t necessarily lead to a marriage proposal.

If you want marriage, talk to him, find out where he’s at and if you’re on the same page. That shouldn’t be too beard considering you’re not a traditionalist and therefore don’t need to wait on him to make all the decisions.

Edited because I fluffed the first answer.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

anon1227 :  Umm…what part is “huge”? The part where he suggests a joint bank account? Or that after four years he is not suggesting saving for a ring?

Also, from your previous posts, you do not own a house together: he owns it, and you pay part of the mortgage – did that change?

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

He actually told you that he WASN’T thinking about a ring. I’m not sure how that translates to being ready for a proposal 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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