Joint Proposal

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
2944 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

You could just not do a proposal? I mean, you’ve both already agreed to be married and you don’t want to do a big thing in front of others anyways, so who is the show for? 

My brother and Future Sister-In-Law got engaged without a formal proposal. They bought rings and then she started wearing hers and that was that.

Obviously, if you want to do something special to celebrate or mark the occassion of getting “officially” engaged, do it! But it wouldn’t be a proposal and there is nothing wrong with that.

Maybe take a weekend away to a favourite spot? Not sure where you live, but we live near the rocky mountains so if our case it would probably be a weekend in the mountains. For you it might be a weekend at the lake or in a city you enjoy visiting.

Post # 3
1293 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

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sboom : 

I agree with this, you can get engaged without a proposal, if the thought of it makes you both nervous. I didn’t have a proposal, we just discussed getting married and then went out and bought a ring. People were still excited for us when we told them.

Post # 4
650 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

Just don’t do a big proposal. We got engaged a few weeks ago at home on a Wednesday night whilst eating chilli 😂 Neither of us like a song or dance over things like that. We designed and ordered the ring together so there was no surprise element so we just decided together.

Post # 5
1163 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

Boyfriend says, will you marry me?  Shows you ring.  You say yes.  Simple as that.  Location could be at a restaurant or at your house.

Post # 6
2 posts
  • Wedding: City, State

Why doesn’t he just propose without the creative shit? He can just ask you to marry him and you guys can call ‘er a day. Try it.

Post # 7
285 posts
Helper bee

We skipped the traditional proposal. We agreed to get married & picked out the ring together. I put it on my finger when I got it from the jeweller and bam we were engaged lol. I wanted the ring so bad and wasn’t willing to wait any freaking longer. I knew my boyfriend would get stressed trying to plan something because big surprises are just not part of his personality.. and I was okay with that. No regrets.

Post # 8
730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

My husband asked me while sitting on a park bench. We had already discussed it. He didn’t do the one knee thing so there was zero attention on us. Very low key. Proposals should reflect the people involved and don’t have to be much. My friend and his partner discussed it and decided that they were engaged at the end of the conversation. He still wants to ask her in a more formal way to have a solidified memory, but it’ll be low key and private.

Post # 9
808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

Just don’t do a proposal in front of others.  My personality type is the same.  My Fiance did something intimate with just the two of us.  It was perfect.

Post # 10
1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

You agree you want to be married? Congrats!! You’re engaged. Just ask for the ring. If he fused then tell him to ask formally, but make it clear you want it private and simple. 

You can propose later if you want. Or he’ll, even propose first. 

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