Post # 1
So I went to a Bachelorette party this weekend that turned into a total disaster with the bride and groom strip clubs etc etc.
It really got me thinking that I really don’t like the idea behind these kind of parties. The whole “ last night of freedom” is really dumb and it gives people an excuse to act and behave in ways they usually don’t. What really pissed me off is that some of the guys were like oh were not suppose to tell what happened its “guy code” And it really set me off! .. This is how you want to START your marriage! Withholding information and keeping secrets, it really got the wheels cranking in my head!..
I am really starting to explore the idea of a Joint Jack and Jill type party..
Has anyone been to any really great ones?.. Were they themed?
Would love to hear your stories and feedback!
Post # 3
Last year a good friend of mine got married. She and her fiance did a joint party that was a lot of fun. We’re in Texas, so we all (boys and girls) carpooled to Austin. We stayed at the same hotel but in different rooms on different floors so we could have separate boy/girl time to get ready and do a langeri shower. After we were all spiffy, we went to dinner together. We stayed at a hotel near 6th street so there are lots of bars and restaurants to walk to. From there we walked to the strip where all the bars were and split up. The boys started on one end and we started on the other… 6th street isn’t that big, but we never ran into each other. At the end of the night we all met back up, had some late-night pizza and went back to our hotel together. The next day we went sight-seeing and had lunch before heading home. I thought it was really nice balance.
My husband and I just got married in June, and he really wanted to do a joint party (like the one I just described), but we ended up not being able to bc of his and my MOH’s work schedule… he had his the weekend after mine. I wasn’t worried about it at all, though. We’re on the same page as to what was acceptable behavior. Neither of us were interested in crossing that line, so it wasn’t an issue.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Atrium at the Curtis Center
I actually just went to my first joint bachelor/bachelorette party last weekend. They had a huge tailgate at the Brad Paisley concert, and then went to concert. We weren’t expecting to enjoy it so much, but it turned out to be a lot of fun! If this is what you both want I think it can be a great idea!
The only thing that got kind of confusing was no one really knew who was throwing the party – were they throwing their own, should the bridesmaids/groomsmen throw it, etc. That needed a bit more organization on that front, but it was awesome, otherwise.
Post # 5
We’re skipping them. Next weekend we are hosting a party for our BMs/GMs and having a joint BBQ/Kegger. This is how we like to spend our time- having a few drinks with friends by the pool- why do awkward things like go to strip clubs in limos, while wearing those stupid sashes that say “Sexy Bride”? That doesn’t seem fun for us. This will be relaxed and awesome, and a way for all our wedding party to meet and celebrate us and them, too. So I say go for it, do a Jack and Jill and hav fun!