Post # 1
Fiance and I sent an invitation to our JOP and her husband (who is also our organist for the ceremony). We never in a million years thought that they would rsvp yes to the reception. They won’t know anyone there and we aren’t asking her to say a prayer or anything.
Any thoughts on this?
Did your JOP come to your reception?
Do you think she replied yes but meant she is coming to the wedding only? (We are meeting with her tomorrow to discuss our ceremony, so we can find out if that is the case then)
Post # 3
Our officiant, his wife and son are invited to our reception. While it is not nessisarily required, I think it is nice to include the person who just married you in the fesivities. If you sent them an invite, she may have thought you were inviting them to the reception. Talking to her about it is probably a good call. Is there room/budget for her and her husband? Or is this just a surprise?
Post # 4
interesting… they will probably leave after dinner. i think if you invited them and they responded “yes,” you need to assume they will stay for the party.
Post # 5
I don’t think its too odd that she responded yes- since by sending her the invitation you did technically invite her. Not sure why she would want to come when there will be no one there she knows though. I would just play it off and not say anything so as to not cause hurt feelings if they assumed that they were invited to the whole thing.
Post # 6
Yes, our officiant and his wife as well as our ceremony musician and his wife are attending our reception. I believe it’s proper to invite them and not uncommon for them to take you up on the offer. I wouldn’t be surprised.
Post # 7
Sometimes officiants do reply “yes!” Their rsvp indicates that they will be attending the reception. Just try to seat them with a family/guests who they will likely be comfortable with.
Post # 8
why is it odd that they accepted? i just think i’m missing what is odd…you DID invite them…
Post # 9
When we booked our JOP I asked him if he normally stayed for the reception, because I would have wanted him to.
He told me up front that no, he doesn’t stay for the reception, but when I asked him if he would come for the rehearsal dinner he said for sure, because he gets to see everyone interacting together on a more intimate level.
Post # 10
Yeah, I completely don’t understand what is odd. It’s nice to invite them, and you did invite them…so why is it odd they accepted?
Post # 11
Thanks all. Yes, we did invite them to the reception and of course we can accommodate them when come.
I was just surprised that they would attend the reception that there would be no one there they know (not even us).
Post # 12
It is fairly common not to know people at a large formal affair. Judges, consular officials, military officers and so on often attend formal functions as part of their social life auxiliary to their careers, and can be quite at home at such events. Making conversation with interesting new acquaintances and enjoying casual socialization with people you have just met can become, with a bit of experience of such events, quite enjoyable.
It is generally the less-experienced socialites who rely on already knowing people, in order to feel comfortable at a social event. Too many such people in the same room, and you find guests clustering in little cliques that don’t circulate, staring at each other through awkward silences, or breaking up into couples and chatting about the same things they’d discuss at home over breakfast. You will probably find that your surprise guest turns out to be skilled at making acquaintance and inspiring the other guests to enjoyable conversation. S/he may be just the person to help the two sides of the family merge a little over coffee and desserts.