(Closed) JOP weddings

posted 6 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@bearbear1:  

I think they are super romantic. We are doing a city hall wedding. I am so excited.

Pro is that they are definitely cheaper, and depending on where you are located, sometimes the buildings are really beautiful. And I think they are very intimate.

Cons would be if you are in love with the idea of a church wedding, sometimes the buildings are unattractive and institutional, and it might feel impersonal and like paperwork.

People tend not to be as excited about the idea of a courthouse wedding, and some people will want to talk you out of it because that’s not what they imagine for a wedding. They are often much smaller and more casual. You would probably only invite a few people closest to you as witnesses, but you won’t have to deal with Bridesmaid or Best Man dress drama, or how you’re going to decorate for the ceremony–so much of tthe planning gets so much easier. I am so glad we decided to do it this way because we get to do exactly what we want, without drama and getting pulled a million different directions.

As far as the reception goes, there’s no reason you can’t have one if you want. We are actually eloping, as in secret and not telling anyone until after, so we will send announcements and have a fairly casual party, nothing super formal. 

It really depends on what *you* want. There really isn’t a wrong choice. 🙂 

Post # 4
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82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We did a justice of peace wedding right before he deployed overseas and planning a church wedding later. We, and our families, agreed marrying before he left was the right idea and support our having a second wedding later. I personally like being able to have the benefits and knowing that if anything happens to him, I can be there with military assistance. So, I’m all for it and can’t think of any cons unless someone gets all huffy about it. I’d just tell them to sit down and shut up. Haha!

Best of luck!

Post # 5
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1136 posts
Bumble bee

We did a small ceremony and are doing a vow renewal later.

 

Pro: less expensive

 

con: You are not getting 2 weddings. You are having one and a vow renewal

Post # 6
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5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs.Vowrenewal:   You are not getting 2 weddings. You are having one and a vow renewal

Edit- WB ate half my post… it said:

Some religions also do a convalidation ceremony or marriage blessing, but otherwise yes, you can renew your vows later, or just throw a big ole marriage celebration party.

Getting married by the JOP is perfectly fine, and you won’t be any less married than someone who had a full mass and a 500 person reception… but you WILL have a lot more money left over!

Post # 7
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1136 posts
Bumble bee

@DaneLady:  if she is religious its still not 2 weddings. 1 is a wedding the other is a religous ceremony

Post # 8
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@bearbear1:  

What exactly do you think of when you say JOP? 

Anything not in a church? 

All weddings in city hall? 

 

Because a JOP can marry you anywhere – including on top of a mountain if you wanted, on a sailboat – in which that case, JOP weddings seem the coolest – most flexible!

 

That’s why I need to know what you have in mind.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs.Vowrenewal:  Right.  It is a convalidation or marriage blessing.  I didn’t mean to indicate that it was another wedding (because you can’t have another wedding unless you get widowed or divorced).  Sorry if my post was unclear!

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